The Top Sex Bloggers via Kinkly. I haven't looked at it for awhile, maybe 2 years. It's possible this is exactly where I was on their list last time too. At least I'm consistent.
Change things around and bring him flowers, chocolates and a sincerely meant compliment. If you can bake make him a cake, a pie or cookies, homemade may not be perfect but it's far more intimate/ personal than something from a bakery. Stop suggesting changes to his wardrobe and bring him flowers in bright colours instead. Later you can try a shirt or tie, inspired by the colours he liked in the flowers. Or, not, really how terrible is it that he dresses himself, even if you don't approve of some of his choices. Keep in mind that he wants to look good, he just doesn't want to be told to change. A compliment will work much better. Tell him when he's looking good. Tell him he's having a great hair day. Tell him those pants look great on him, that shirt brings out the colour of his eyes and he looks so polished and professional when he wears that suit. People like positive feedback, which is what compliments are. No one is going to accuse you of nagging when you give a sincere compliment to them. (Don't try turning negative feedback into a compliment - that's just mean and phoney). Complimenting men is fun, once you get started. Compliment random men. The guy who held the elevator or the door for you. Smile when you say "thanks" and actually look at him too. Such a small thing can really make a difference in someone's day, for both of you.
Being pleasant never goes out of style.
Guys love compliments ‘As men, we crave compliments. Nothing will make us happier then to be told we look good, smell good, etc. This is why… we men tend to compliment women too much sometimes. We sometimes over use the golden rule, we treat women as we want to be treated. ‘I have worked with some pretty attractive men who would get hit on often which was nothing for them but the second someone actually complimented them they lit up like a god damn gorgeous Christmas tree.’ – BetamaletimQuote from a post at Marie Claire.
Too bad blind dates don't come to your door, delivered like something great you sent yourself from Amazon. Online shopping, something I didn't think I would become addicted to, was my retail therapy. Other than having your treasure arrive like a present, the best thing about it is still the window shopping. I do like getting a bargain but the chase, the planning, the research and then the discovery of that one, just right, exceptional item! I wasn't a fool though. I knew who paid that credit card each month. Me. I could be careful and still buy stuff. The trick was to make sure it really was something I really did need. Most of the time I was successful that way. Books, print books, tended to be my downfall. A good book is a good companion. Like that blind date but, in this case, he can hold up his end of the conversation. Of course, only my lips were moving. Until... I had a blind date. Another one. My sister set it up. It wasn't my worst date but it did get weird when he began talking about his life sized sex doll. Not a blow up doll. A fully functional robot. (I admit, I didn't ask for details about what fully functional meant). I encouraged him to talk about how he dresses her up, poses her for photographs and other things. At least I wasn't left carrying the conversation. As time went on he got so excited to tell me all about his sex doll, I just had to smile and nod until the end of the date. He gave me a little obligatory kiss and a business card before hurrying away home. I thought he had given me his own business card but it wasn't. I had one of those soft snort laughs when I read it. But, I did keep it. I don't think I had any thought about using it, not then. Still, you never know all the little thoughts lingering in the back of your mind. A few weeks later, another blind date, and a delivery from Amazon at my door. An ok blind date, but I never saw him again. I'd never had a delivery come in a wooden crate before. Even a solid, metal library cart had come in just a bigger cardboard box. Shipping was crazy expensive. I'd debated clicking the final OK even while I tempted myself with all the possibilities and convinced myself this was something I needed. As I watched the crate, almost expecting something to happen, I had a minor panic attack. That fluttery feeling in my chest, flashes of cold and warm, and damp palms. So, I didn't open the crate. Like a lottery ticket, all good and hopeful until you check it. Weeks went by that way. I got used to the big wooden crate I had to walk around in the middle of the hallway. I liked it that way, safe but full of potential I could, someday, choose to open. Who knows how long it would have gone on like that? I'd nearly paid off my credit card. I'd come up with an explanation friends and family seemed to accept for the crate being there. I even had two more blind dates. No more online shopping though, my budget was blown. It happened on a Tuesday, a fairly random day. I unlocked my door, locked it behind me, dragged in a couple of bags of groceries and put my purse down at the door. A naked man was sitting on my sofa, watching me. I froze in stunned indecision. He smiled. A nice smile, nothing dangerous or challenging. I think it was even friendly and hopeful. I could skip a lot of typing and just tell you it was the robot from the crate and that we ended up in bed, on the floor and out on the balcony, in some order or other. But, it didn't happen that way. For one thing, I'm not a porn star. He introduced himself but explained he didn't have a name until I picked one for him. He didn't come with any clothes either. Then he asked me why I'd left him in the crate so long. I was still stunned. We looked at each other for some unknown amount of time. Now I know he was waiting for instructions. Having just an ordinary human sort of brain I needed longer to adapt to sudden change and put things together. I heard a click, he unplugged himself from the wall, stood up (modestly covering himself in front) and carefully reached around my still frozen self, for the groceries I had entirely forgotten. With the bags on the kitchen counter he started putting things away, figuring out where they should go without asking me. He had a tea towel wrapped around his middle while he made dinner, hamburgers. I think the smell of meat cooking brought me out of the deep freeze. I like to think it was a predator kind of thing. But, I'm probably kidding myself. He took my coat, hung it in the hall closet. Putting my hand on his arm, like a proper gentleman, or a butler, he led me to the table, pulled out my chair and pushed it in again when I sat down. Then he set the table for dinner, one place setting. Who knew a machine, a robot, an android, a male sex doll could make a good hamburger? After a quiet dinner he cleaned everything up himself. This was the most unusual blind date I'd ever had. He talked while he worked. Told me about himself. Other than being the youngest blind date I've ever had, it turned into the best blind date I'd ever had - and the last. We talked all night. We had so much to talk about! Not just sorting out who he was, how things work and all that. But, he knew about so many things which also interest me. Part of the programming, but he had opinions and different ways of looking at things and pulling ideas together. It aroused me. I kept him in just the tea towel, sat close beside him and gave into curiousity. He felt very human, nicely firm and warm too. We set his features: hair colour, facial hair, tone of voice, and so on. He became sexier and sexier, especially once we had that voice just right. I could feel the deepness of his voice rumble through me. Then he whispered some sweet nothings, knowing his voice was melting me from the inside. I wanted his touch so I put his hands under my sweater, over my bra. He told me how much he liked my boobs, how long he had been waiting to touch me when he could only watch through a few tiny gaps in the packing crate. He said his emergency battery had finally run low the other night when I had come out of the shower, nude. I'd gotten a towel fresh from the laundry basket and stayed there, drying off, applying lotion, where he could see me. But, he couldn't do anything. They aren't allowed to unpack themselves from the crate in any but extreme circumstances. He asked to undress me and I said, "yes". I felt worshipped as he took his time, revealing me like a special delivery from Amazon. Soft kisses, warm strokes and barely there touches in appreciation for every new part of me exposed. Warm breath and nibbles over sensitive skin, my skin and his skin as we exchanged caresses. The tea towel had fallen somewhere, his cock hard, and just the length, width and shape I'd ordered. I wrapped my hand around his cock and held it firmly, taking possession. His gasp, shudders and squirming excited me. I slipped his fingers into my pussy, spreading around the wetness there. He moved to slip his fingers in deeper and I let him. Perfect male hands with fingers just long enough to feel wonderful pushing inside of me. I encouraged him to slip three fingers in and stroke my pussy, in and out with a little twist of his wrist for extra hotness. Three big fingers swirling inside my pussy, his thumb teasing my clit while he sucked and teased my breasts, belly and thighs with his other hand and his mouth. I wanted it. I wanted him. I was ready to take what I wanted. "I want your cock inside of me now, boy". For a few seconds I missed his fingers in me and all over me but then the tip of his cock was dipping into my hot, wet pussy. There, he waited, for permission to slide inside. His cock, so firm, straining to push into my welcoming pussy, trembling with excitement but staying just between my pussy lips. He was mine to take so I did. I rode his cock, felt it slip inside, pushing into me and making room for the generous width of his cock. I did it my way, slow and deep and then a little twist while holding his cock so deeply inside my pussy I could feel the hum and vibrations of his machinery as his cock filled me. My orgasm came like tidal waves crashing in and then winding down to happy little ripples. He stroked my back and kept his cock inside me until the last few ripples. I sat up, astride him on the floor and enjoyed looking at him. His cock still firmly inside me, but I was satisfied and just wanted to see him still hard and needy. I moved up and knelt over him, letting him see my pussy, smell it too. He put his hand up, covering my pussy with one finger slipping between the outer lips. I moved and stood up, leaving him hoping for more. "You can wash me in the shower and then we're going to bed. In the morning I'm going to open that chest of toys included in the crate." "I think I'm still a virgin. Am I? I really was looking forward to sex. Is it really sex if you only allow me to penetrate you?" He asked. "I don't know. But, it will be amusing to keep you as a virgin for awhile." "How long? Don't you want to make sure everything works, as ordered?" I admired his tall, nicely muscular body and his still twitchy, hard cock as he stood up. "Looks like it works for me." I laughed, pretty happy with this expensive present I had sent myself from Amazon. Freshly posted to Novel Trove tonight.
I've been using Scoop.it for awhile. This is my second account. I used to have more topics, but when I started my second account (again, not keeping two accounts), there were even more limits on free accounts. Now it isn't even working that well. At this point I'm probably doing more for their traffic than they do for mine. Not that I'm getting huge traffic and not that they particularly gear the site for sexual or adult topics either. Is it worth keeping? I do like having a place to post links, beyond this site where I can't just post the link and leave it. I like posting links for people to find and read more if they have an interest. But, if it's on my site I have to add some kind of commentary, grab an image (usually) and add the link to the source. One of the things I like about using Scoop.it is the software which does that for me. Also, I like using the search to see what else is suggested for my topic. I can't find something like that which I can run myself, self-hosted especially. I would prefer not to use a web service, they can disappear or change without notice or approval. So, staying with Scoop.it in particular is becoming less ideal for me. I could get a business (premium) account but... that makes so little practical sense considering my budget of zilch. One other feature of Scoop.it is auto posting to social media. I've never been a complete fan of that. But, I don't mind it so much since it only posts once and I forget to do it myself. I will watch for an alternative but, I wonder if life would be simpler without it. Do I use it mainly for myself and the idea of generating traffic or do I really like sharing links this way? Would it be just as simple to create a feed of links in my own sidebar here and auto share posts with a plugin? I would miss the suggested content but, the reason I started writing this was the break down in that feature. It used to be much better. Possibly, they (Scoop.it) has limited that more than before as well. Tonight, it was especially not useful, and hasn't been for several weeks. So... more choices and more changes.
I joined NovelTrove last night and posted a story for their contest with the theme, swinging. My story came in last of ten. Maybe due to being entered just as the contest was closing or maybe it just wasn't sexy/ slutty enough. I liked it. I wrote it in an hour, including the time I pulled it together in my mind before typing anything. Usually I type as I think. This delayed start was better. I had to remember all my ideas and that helped as the story developed. Click the link to see the story on the site and give it a vote if you liked it. If you didn't like it, just don't bother to vote. Seems simple enough to me.