What’s So Sexy About Your Name?

I like personality quizzes online. They don’t mean anything really but they can give you a nice pick-me-up.


You Are Fanciful Sexy

You are sexy because you are very dreamy. You are often lost in a lush fantasy.You are a sincere and devoted partner. You are attracted to troubled souls.You will do anything for the person you love, and in the bedroom, you aim to please.Once you fall for someone, you’re hooked. You give all of yourself to make the relationship work.Of all the types, you’re the most likely to have a secret fantasy life.

And for you, your fantasy life can be more real than your actual life at times.

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The Sexy Librarian Done Right

Most images I see for the sexy librarian get it wrong. I think the sexy part about the librarian is her unconcern with being sexy or trying to please anyone but herself. She isn’t dressed in low cut shirts with her boobs hanging out. She isn’t deliberating flaunting herself at all. Her allure is about what’s hidden. Under her plain clothes she wears racy underwear. No one knows of course, unless there is a flash of it while she stacks books on the shelf or while she finds a quiet spot to tuck herself away for a good read.
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Bestiality: Fetish or Fantasy?

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Found on Oddity Central.

I like to be contrary and think outside of the standard, accepted rules. Not that I don’t have firm beliefs but… how can things ever change if we are totally rigid and don’t even consider another perspective? At the end we still make our decisions but they can be based upon more than assumptions and snap judgments.

Where do you stand on animal or pet kissing? I’ve seen pet owners kiss their animals before. Not quite as well kissed as these illustrations but… is a kiss still a kiss or is a kiss even just a kiss?

If these illustrations creep you out think about why you don’t like them. The animals seem to be participating fully, not holding back or pulling away. Maybe the person smeared food on their lips? These are illustrations, not photographs. Illustrations are not actual images with actual people or animals. So rule that out of your thoughts in this case.

I don’t go around kissing animals at all. I don’t know where I would draw the line or judge someone else who does. But, I think it’s icky because of the bacteria and germ issue far more than anything sexual. I admit, I prefer a hug, a pat or a cuddle to kissing among myself and other humans. I don’t kiss babies, children or anyone I’m not really intimate with.

As far as the sexual thing… who can really speak for the animal and why do we draw lines never to be crossed for animals but allow children to be used and abused and sold? You may protest that it is not allowed. But, I think people have a much bigger reaction to sex with animals than they do to sex with children. To me, that is why I would not rush into decisions about bestiality, fetish or fantasy or criminal act? Our society allows some child porn. Look at some of the ads with children and think about it. Just a few years ago a diaper ad featured a baby being oogled because they looked good in their diaper. Sure it was all about fashion… sure it was….

Then there is the whole meat eating thing. If we are okay with cultivating animals in order to eat them…  We say we believe everyone should be free to have sex in any style (with anyone and anything) they choose… I don’t think anyone really means it because any is a very big word, kind of like never and ever.

Yes, I’m being extreme and extremely liberal but… doesn’t it make you think?

How to Impress a Domme When Meeting for the First Time

male sub jewelsYou’ve gotten through her screening process and she has set a time and place for you to meet her, face to face. Now what? How do you make a good first impression on a real Domme when you meet for the first time? I don’t mean the type of Dominant woman you pay, the one who asks you what you want and tells you how much it will cost. No, I mean the Domme who is a real woman and wants more than a temporary job when she arranges to meet you.

Dress appropriately:

You are most likely meeting in a public place. If you wear any fetish wear be very discreet and don’t wave it around in public. Something small which you leave her to notice is much more effective than a blatant display.

Dress up too. Look your best and pay attention to grooming. Trim facial hair, clean your fingernails, etc.

Show up and be on time or a bit early:

Don’t be late! Too many times men do not show up or arrive late. If you are not ready to meet her (or only want to play pretend online) don’t make the appointment in the first place. Be honest.

Bring a little gift:

Nothing elaborate, you aren’t paying for her favours. Keep it simple but this is a chance for you to show some cleverness, creativity, style and prove that you actually did pay attention to what she has told you about herself so far.

Offer to buy the first coffee/ wine:

She may turn down the offer, but that doesn’t excuse you from offering. Be a gentleman and remember your old fashioned manners.

Make small talk:

Until she introduces the subject of BDSM or D/s you keep the conversation light. Consider this your first test, because it likely is one of the things she is watching for.

When the subject of BDSM or sex comes up don’t rush in:

Don’t bring your grocery list of fetishes and kinky ideas to the table. Of course you want to know if she shares your interests, however chances are your list is more fantasy than fact. Talk to her about actual experience you have had versus stuff you want to try, think would be a big turn on, etc. Stick to the facts. If she asks what you want to try and have not done yet, keep it modest. Don’t make yourself sound like a window shopper – keep it realistic.

Watch your personal space:

Do not invade her personal space. Keep your arms, hands, coffee mugs, wine glass and etc to your own side of the table. Body language counts!

Bring a business card if you have one:

Unless you are paying her (which this post is not about) you should be prepared to give her information about yourself. Proof that you are available, that she can contact you, that you trust her (and thus she can trust you too). If you do not have a business card make sure she has your correct phone number, email address or any other way of contacting you and then ask her to contact you.

To hug or not to hug:

At the end of your time, if all has gone well, you might want some physical contact. Let her lead, however you can offer your hand or ask permission to give her a hug, etc.

Do not ask for sex! Asking for sex just proves you don’t really have half a clue about male submission. If you want to serve her, your needs do not come first. Sex may not even be part of what she wants.

After the first meeting send her a thank you note:

Thank her for meeting you, tell her you had a good time, enjoyed getting to know her, and so on. Don’t ask for a second meeting – but you can tell her you hope to see her again soon. You can suggest a great place or local event for a second meeting, but leave it up to her to choose.