Not your Angel – The Celebutaunt

People ask (or think and don’t ask) what kind of person becomes a FemDom? What people don’t know may hurt them.

There are more types of FemDoms (Dommes, Mistresses, Female Dominants, etc.) than there are titles for. Each woman can have her own style, her own agenda and her own way to feel about what she does.

I’m asking some Dommes (my preferred word) about their style of dominating. First … Not your Angel.

Not your Angel aka Trailer Trash Angel – Q and A

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What kind of Domme are you, what do you call your style of Domming?

I am simply a naturally superior female, leading & educating men regarding their low status via humiliation, rejection, domination, pain — and good old cash.

Since I am naturally superior, it’s simple for Me. However, it can be quite complicated and uncomfortable for the little pigs.

How do you dress or behave to suit your style of Domming?trailer-trash-angel-Leopard-Twitter

I wear what I want, when I want. I could wear baggy sweats and still make the boys sweat — but often I wear skimpy southern things that accentuate My body, My gypsy spirit. And, sure, that’s often what amplifies loser fantasies too.

What are the men/ clients like who suit your style?

The men who are aware that they are inferior — not only to Me, but to all women — are generally the pigs that follow Me & My instructions.

What helps you to feel the mood, scene or situation when Domming?

Eager, willing, and honest submission puts Me in the mood. I don’t tolerate poser-pigs who think this is all some sort of game where they can pretend to be a slave or whatever, yet do not truly submit. If they won’t do any of the work, if they try to run scams to avoid paying My fees, if they don’t follow My rules, I am incredibly turned off. And that sort of stink will stick to those pigs for a long, LONG time.

I do push limits, so I can accept and understand some resistance from time to time, from task to task. But I do not educate, instruct, inflict, or in any way play for free.

I do not tolerate posers. I banish and block them without a second thought.

How did you become a Dom?

Let’s see… I started out as a Brat, matured into to a Gold Digger, and found Myself graduating to the next levels of Femdom & Findom. It was simply a natural progression for Me. (Longer version of the story here.)

Which title: FemDom, Domme, Mistress, Madame, or another do you prefer?

I prefer the term The Celebutaunt – one part celebrity, one part taunt. But that’s often too sophisticated for these men who prefer the typical “Mistress” or “Goddess” titles. *weary eyeball rolls*

Is Domming professional only or do you also Dom in your personal relationships?

I am naturally dominant & know My value, so yeah, I Domme everywhere.

Every.

Where.

FemDom Fashion

The expected FemDom attire is silly. In this photo that leather neck brace and those boots must not be at all comfortable. I’d only wear stuff like that if someone paid me too. Paid in advance!

Fetish wear for women is too often a male fantasy. What would a woman wear, by her own choice? How do women Doms see themselves? If they took out all the male perspective how would Dom women dress?

I wouldn’t wear this. Though I like the idea of the long gloves, even those would be more for theatre, performance art.

There’s something innocent, but also something pure about vintage Femdom pictures. Back in those days being submissive actually meant something. You had to go to a sexshop to buy these magazines and you’d go over the stories and pictures again and again. There weren’t that many professional Mistresses around in those days, so finding and visiting them was a big deal. The…

Source: Vintage Femdom – Femdom Times

FemDom Halloween Costumes Needed

I found these costumes for a BDSM couple but, the order is reversed. She should be the key holder and he is the one locked up. Of course, the ball and chain could work either way. But, not everyone would understand she has him in chains versus him being chained to her. It could help if he were as scantily clad as she is. ballchain

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Why Don’t More Women Dom Men?

CaptureI think there would be far more women as BDSM Dominants if women understood what it really is. The male version is just a fantasy, their fantasy. The porn version is fiction, created for men who like the fantasy. So, women don’t really see what Domming is, just the FemDom fiction.

A woman who likes to Dom is not mean, vicious or nasty. It’s not about causing harm or taking out your frustrations. It’s about power, fun, creativity, romance and sensuality, among other things. I like to focus on the creativity and sensuality. (That makes it fun for me).

How many women would love to have control of their man if they really did have control? Tell him what you want, how you want it and when you want it… and he obeys. It works for the men who are submissive too.

There is no guarantee of sex with BDSM. Sex isn’t used as a reward or punishment. In Dominance and submission he doesn’t obey in order to get sex. He doesn’t obey because you command him, like a drill sergeant. He doesn’t obey because you’re wearing tight black leather and high heels. It’s not about worshipping women either, though some like to add that in. He obeys because he wants to, this is what he wants. He wants to obey. He wants to be a good boy. He wants to be happy, with you.

Have you ever told a man he’s a “good boy”? Watch his face. Those are powerful words. As a Dominant woman you can get a lot of mileage out of “good boy”. Play with it sometime. You don’t have to try anything else, just slip a “good boy” into the conversation. You can say it softly, romantically, sensually. Or, say it with power, energy and a little forcefulness.

Subtle, Simple Ways for Women to Dip into Domination

  • Hold his hand. Take his hand as you cross the street. Lead him by the hand and walk in front of him.
  • Order for him. You don’t need to order him around. Try ordering for him at a restaurant before he lets the server know what he wants.
  • Dress him. Tell him what you want him to wear next time you go out together. Pick out clothes that look good on him and tell him so if he objects.
  • Kiss him first. Pick a moment when it won’t lead to anything else. Just a quick, impulsive kiss, or a fondle, caress, tickle…
  • Ask him to touch you and tell him how to do it right (as you want to be touched). Anything from rubbing your shoulders, warming your hands, or stroking your back. It’s up to you.
  • Accept thanks and compliments from him. Don’t be modest or turn away positive comments. Reward him with a smile instead and thank him too.

None of these things are Earth shattering. But, you can get a feeling for being in power in your relationship. You can see how fun it is and start to want more. Also, as you take charge you begin to ask for more, expect more and then it’s just a step farther to telling him you’re going to try something new… like blindfolding him or not letting him touch you with his hands while you have your own way with him.

For women who really enjoy Domination it’s not about wearing tight costumes, carrying a whip or being a bitch. Those can be elements of it, if that’s what you actually want. But, BDSM can be all about sensuality and pleasure. As a Dominant woman you just do it YOUR way. The hard part is sticking to doing it your way and not letting things slip into giving him what he wants while you wait for it to be over. There is nothing so dull and boring as being a McDomme, a woman doing what he wants, his way and wishing you had brought along a good book for yourself.

Was Marilyn Monroe a Domme?

Could Marilyn Monroe have been a Domme?

You could see her that way. Her media career was mostly about being sexy, curvy and soft in the right places and times. Yet she was actually a clever woman, making a living from her Hollywood image. All these years since her death and she is still an icon for the sexy woman image. People still imitate Marilyn Monroe, her walk, her voice and her fashion style.

Based on her image, she could have been a very successful FemDom, likely a financial Domme asking for jewels and cash. She would pick men of fame and fortune or at least great looking and intelligent, strong men. Marilyn would have had her pick of clients but I think her first choice would be personal, not professional.

I think she would have enjoyed domination. Having the power rather than playing up to men as she did in her movies and personal appearances. I don’t think Marilyn would have been the type to do everything his way once she closed the door on the public. In private it would become her turn, her way.

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