Fascinators can be Fun

We could all make and wear a fascinator as they wore for the Royal Wedding. Just add ribbons, lace, flowers and whatever you have around to decorate a hair band. They seem pretty simple in construction but you could go all out and make them fancy and complicated.

National Post: The Rich History and Modern Rediscovery of the Fascinator

Fascinator is a recent designation but its ornamental essence is deeply rooted in 18th-century dress. British women paired the popular “Dutch” hairstyle with a topknot, also known as a pompom — made up of ribbons, small feathers, butterflies and jewels and secured to the front or off to the side of the head. During the late 1700s, Marie Antoinette and other French ladies of influence had a strong desire for beauty, prestige and attention, igniting battles in creativity and flamboyancy. Hair-covered cushions stuffed with wool or horsehair, resembled tall egg-shaped towers and acted as foundations for fastened adornment. Flowers, lace, jewelled pins, fruit, garden scenes — anything and everything was considered fair game. (Clipped-on battleships and cannons to celebrate war victories? Why not?)

Revolutions and recessions slowed down the practice of extreme headdress, but moderate decorative pieces have always been present, with a shift towards varying types of formal hats in the early 20th century from large-brimmed Merry Widows to the sophisticated pillbox, before today’s headgear bursting with clipped-on confidence took top spot on the hat rack.

Feathers have always been a chief decorative material in millinery. Ivan Sayers, fashion historian from Vancouver’s Original Costume Museum Society shares that, “historically feathers were not only pretty, but were used to showcase allegiance to political parties and devotion to the royal family.” Chances are ladies won’t be using feathers to parade their pick for prime minister over the next few weeks, but this tradition is still exercised. Recently, Kate Middleton debuted a pheasant-plume-topped fascinator designed by Vivien Sheriff Millinery — atop sat a badge representing the Royal Welch Fusiliers, a regiment within the Prince of Wales Division of the British Armed Forces.

How to Wear your Fascinator from an article in The Globe and Mail.

Fascinators should be worn on the side of your head, toward the front and on an angle. “Never in the centre,” says Karyn Gingras, owner and designer at Lilliput Hats in Toronto’s Little Italy. Ms. Gingras, whose handiwork will adorn heads in Westminster Abbey this Friday, says fascinators should generally perch slightly above the brow, though when netting is involved, it’s okay to let it drape seductively over one eye.

Jezebel: How to Make your own Royal Wedding Fascinator

Philip Treacy – London, UK.

Fancy a Fascinator

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More to It All

I’ve gotten muddled with what I wanted to do with this blog. I listened to someone else and then attempted to push my plans around to work with what I was told would work. But, it hasn’t been working exceptionally well. In the end you have to be true to yourself. It is a great thing to listen to the opinions and ideas of others, to take stock of what they tell you but you can’t become someone else in the process. So, this blog is having a revamp.

I do like posting the jewels, especially brooches. I do want to keep it about divorced women and what you do with yourself and your life after you get through the divorce. But, there has to be more than that. Cause there is just that much more to me.

The first thing I’m adding here is romance.

I love romance. I love images that are romantic. I love words that bring the feelings of romance. I especially like trying to find romance again, for myself in particular.

Slave Collars

This comes from Gorean Impressions, a post about collars and collaring from the typical Gore theme of the male Dom and female submissive. But, the ideas are about the same, just reversed.


Their are reasons for why a slave wears a collar:
1) Visibly designates a girl as slave
2) Impresses a girl’s slavery upon her, makes her more aware of her slavery
3) Identifies her Master
4) Makes it easier to leash her
5) Makes it easier to put her in various ties/restraints
6) Because it is beautiful
7) Because it pleases the Master to do so

A collar is the most personal item that a slave may wear. It not only designates her as slave but it also is often enscribed with her owner’s name. A collar may be as simple as a piece of cloth of fiber and as intricate as gold with jewels upon it.

The collar, unlike the brand, is not permanent and may be changed within the same house or by the same Master or as the slave is sold from Master to Master (Tarnsman of Gor), just like the slave’s nick may be changed.

A slave’s collar often denotes her rank. Perhaps a lowly kettle slave may wear a fiber collar or at most an iron collar. A slave purely trained for pleasure may wear an enamelled collar of yellow or red or whatever color her owner sees fit to put her in. A love slave may even bare a collar encrustled or dangling with jewels. A punished slave may wear a collar with bells upon it so that her master may not find her ‘sneaking’ upon him.

“Where in Tharna,” I asked, “did you find Pleasure Slaves?” I had noted that the throats of the girls were encircled by silver collars.{Outlaw of Gor}

The last book of the series states that a slave should have the new collar put upon her throat before the old is taken off. This way the slave feels no sense of freedom, even if only for a few ihn.

I then fetched the collar, designed to resemble a state collar, from the flat leather box. I went behind her and locked it on her neck, above the Appanius collar. She now wore two collars. I then removed the Appanius collar from her neck. In this way there was no moment in which she was not in at least one collar.{Magicians of Gor, 358}

It is said that once the collar is off the girl is in fact free. She may be free for just the moment or she may be freed to become the Master’s Free Companion.

Different cities/regions are known to have their own style of collar. For instance the Turian collar is round and loose. The Bazi-style collar is wide, tapered towards the top, belled out at the bottom, and commonly inscribed and/or enameled with intricate designs and motifs which signify the Owner and/or the nature of the kajir.

The collars of the male slaves are often not lock collars. The collars are even hidden so that they may not see how numerous they really are.

Whether or not there were male slaves I could not well judge, for the collars would have been hidden by the gray robes. There is no distinctive garment for a male slave on Gor, since, as it is said, it is not well for them to discover how numerous they are. {Outlaw of Gor}

Types of Collars

Bazi style collar: a wide collar, tapered towards the top, belled out at the bottom, and commonly inscribed and/or enameled with intricate designs and motifs which signify the Owner and/or the nature of the kajir.

cord collar: made of cord fashioned from the rence plant it is worn by rencer slaves and carries a small disk to identify the owner.

dance collar: a collar to which light- weight (but effective) chain has been attached in order to set off the dancer.

fiber collar: a simple collar made only of cloth or fiber. (Raiders of Gor)

galley slave collar: a heavy collar often having a chain hanging from it; for use with galley slaves. (Raiders of Gor)

house collar: often portrayed the name of the house where the slave belonged to, the house normally bearing the name of the owner; often bearing a legend–for example ‘I am the property of the House of Cernus’; sometimes it would even say from which part of the house, such as the baths; sometimes even the cost for the use of the slave would be engraved into the metal of the collar; might even be just a chain with a plate on it. (Assassin of Gor)

iron collar: simply a collar made of iron; often hammered upon the slave’s neck; it is not meant to be a beautiful collar, instead it is often used as mere incitement for the slave to train and gain a more beautiful collar. (Assassin of Gor; Raiders of Gor)

ko-lar: Gorean word meaning slave collar; pronounced as ‘collar’; this term is not used often in the books, mostly the word ‘collar’ is used. (Slave Girl of Gor, page 80)

lock collar: A step above an ironed on collar; denoted sometimes as a ‘pretty collar.’ (Assassin of Gor)

message collar: high leather collar sewn closed about the slave’s neck; sewn within the leather of the collar will be a message. (Priest-Kings of Gor)

northern collar: a utilitarian sounding collar made of black iron with an iron ring to be used if a chain is attached. It is rivited around the neck of the bond-maid. (Marauders of Gor, page 85)

pen collar: not a typical locked collar, more a narroe band of iron, hammered on, with a number for slaves in the iron pens. (Assassin of Gor)

plank collar: two-piece board hinged at one end and capable of being locked at the other.
plate collar: simple hammered collar. (Raiders of Gor)

shipping collar: a loose, generic colar worn by slaves when being shipped as cargo; a temporary collar showing that the slave girl is part of a cargo. (Explorers of Gor, page79)

state slave collar: has a certain color designating the city the slave is owned by; often greay; Ar’s state slaves wear grey. (Raiders of Gor; Assassin of Gor)

transport collar: collar with a metal tag attached listing destination or other vital information, to be used during transport of a slave.

Turian collar: round metal

wall collar: a slave is collared and chained to the wall (Assassin of Gor)