My reply to a woman who asked for help because she was feeling she could not reveal her “weak” feelings and a need to explore her own submission to her submissive little one in Mommy/ little relationship.
If your relationship is a good one you should be able to evolve it to suit you. Why not show a “weak” side? Who says it is weak to want affection?
If you have a relationship with your little it should not be just one sided, change things and make sure you are getting what you need from the relationship as well. If it is just a play relationship where you are stuck in a role then it is not enough for you.
Consider finding someone who can be more and have a two way relationship. I find it hard to have that with Dom and sub because people do think it should be all one sided. That is what they show in porn – it is not the reality. Or, it should not be the reality.
A Dom or Mommy or whatever title or role is not someone who stoically gives all and endures. That is a very lonely and one sided thing. It is also boring at some point because you just lose interest in maintaining something which doesn’t give you back what you need. The relationship needs to replenish the Dom in some way. If it is real versus that online play stuff people do. I did online play and it left me feeling used and actually bored because there was nothing in it for me. The whole thing became a routine I performed.
Think about what you need and talk to your sub about it. If she actually does care about you she should be happy to give you what you need. If not, then you need to find someone who cares about your needs as much as she does her own.
If you are locked into a role how can you ever really be yourself? If you can’t be yourself, and if you can’t get what you need to keep the relationship going, then what is the point of keeping it at all? Eventually it will die because you don’t have your full self invested in it and you are not getting enough back from it.
Also, why would your partner not want to be a real partner? Give them a chance to be more and give yourself a chance to have more.