Thomas Muther, Jr. Explores in the Nude

Thomas Muther, Jr. is a frequent poster to the Flickr urban exploration group I moderate. He is pretty much the only nude male posing and – he is setting up the camera, posing and taking the photo on his own. His own model.

As a woman moderating the group I’m glad to see Thomas posting his photos. Without him the group would feel very sexually biased to me. But, I do wonder what other group members think. Likely most of them are male. Most urban explorers are still male and most of the people coming to look at nude people are coming to look at nude females. I’ve never asked him what kind of feedback, if any, he gets.

I could make this story quite lengthy, but to cut to the chase, after hitting me with a volley of questions–during which seven (7!!!!!!) other police cars pulled up–I was informed that a woman out walking her dog had seen me and reported the “incident” to the police. I was then belatedly informed of my rights, handcuffed, and taken to jail for “indecent exposure.” As they were putting the handcuffs on me, I was utterly dumbfounded. The only thing I managed to verbalize was, “why are you putting me in handcuffs?” which seems a reasonable question. Their reply? “Because that’s what we do to people who break the law!” If I’d had my wits about me, I might have rejoindered, “So, you put people in handcuffs who jaywalk?–or go 5 miles over the speed limit?”–but I was completely flummoxed. Thus, I ended up spending the night, and all the next day in jail. I finally managed to contact my sister who wired bail, and I got out late the next evening. With such a horrific charge hanging over my head, I hired an attorney (at $3500), as being a sexual predator registry for the rest of my life didn’t appeal. The charges were dropped after his intervention, so there were no long term consequences, but it was not a fun experience. The ridiculous over zealousness of these police cost me more than just the $3,500, obviously. Being in jail against your will when you’ve done nothing to deserve it really sucks (as opposed to being in jail for civil disobedience–which I’ve done three times . . . an entirely different feeling). Oh well. 🙁 Compared to the injustices committed by various trigger-happy police over the last months, I guess I shouldn’t complain.

Blue and White Brooch

blue white brooch

I think I’d love blue a lot more if I didn’t already love red. But, blue and white can look so crisp and perfect together. Just like those floral patterns white blue and white roses – one of my many favourite things. The colours in this brooch also make me think of blue jays. I grew up in an area with a lot of blue jays and I feel happy when I’m lucky enough to see one still.

Brooch via Overstock

What Type of Valentine are You?


You Are a Hopeful Valentine

Even though you know flowers are temporary and perishable, you are able to enjoy every moment of their beauty.You’re the same way with love. It may or may not last forever, but you make the most of what you’ve got.You find it easy to be happy, and you don’t put a lot of demands on your partner. You are very accepting.

You appreciate any little thing your partner does for you. It doesn’t take much to make you swoon.

Pretty but Not Ordinary for Valentine’s Day

I seldom actually drink tea but I like pretty, vintage and delicate tea cups and saucers. Best of all, I like when they are not a set, all perfect and all matching each other. A mismatched set has more charm and variety and seems less tight laced and formal.

Whether you drink a lot of tea or just a little, a pretty cup and saucer is a treat and just nice for Valentine’s Day for someone who doesn’t want chocolates, candy, flowers or much of the traditional Valentine romance. Instead, think of a teacup (don’t forget the matching saucer because the actual cup and saucer should match or you just look like you are very bad at washing your dishes).

This blushing vintage pretty comes from Etsy. It’s a bit expensive but it really suits Valentine’s Day.

valentine tea