Ads For Period Underwear Go Too Far

I know we’re expected to just jump up and accept everything related to sexuality these days but… I have a mind of my own. Not a popular thing, kind of a collector’s item these days.

I agree with these ads being censored. At the very least they could be edited with consideration for the children, elderly and others who all ride subways and travel about in cities and towns (places with sidewalks in general).

Men may object to any mention of periods and menstruation (or breasts as anything other than sex objects). But, they aren’t the only people who don’t want to see ads for period underwear.

I don’t want to see most of these ads while standing on a subway platform surrounded by the general public. The state of my underwear and whether or not I’m OTR (on the rag, as my brother calls it) is my business only. Private. Hence, the whole private parts thing.

I also don’t want children to see sexual images like the blush pink orange sections or the weird dripping egg. Children may not connect the dots on these images but I am and I’m not liking having them around. Or that woman leaning back in her chair, wearing just underwear. Who does that on any kind of normal day? Is she having cramps, falling asleep or trying to orgasm while seated? Then there’s the piano bench woman… is she supposed to be suicidal from blood loss? In short, this is not for public consumption.

Why not keep it plain and simple? The image of the woman in the sweater and the text without the extra comments/ editorial. Why isn’t that enough? Is the purpose of the ad to sell underwear to women, sell porn to men, sell sex while on your period or just upset the general population including women who can’t have children, have lost children, have started menopause, etc. It’s not just children I’m thinking of.

I don’t have a problem with the ads appearing. They sell condoms in plain view. Porn can be bought at most newstands. I miss the old days when people still kept a few secrets about their privates. I wish they would!

We’re annoyed they even considered censoring this in the first place.

Source: The NYC Subway Actually Considered Banning Ads For Period Underwear | Her Campus

#DommeGirlProblems 

I was reading @Slutty Girl Problems on Twitter and thought… What about #DommeGirlProblems? So I’m starting with a few ideas to see where it goes.

  • I left him gagged an extra hour while I read a chapter of my book. Shouldn’t I feel guilty? #DommeGirlProblems
  • Man drool on the new shoes I let him buy me! #DommeGirlProblems
  • This time I really did lose the key… can I just pretend I’m faking it again? #DommeGirlProblems
  • I’m too tired to spank him tonight. Why can’t he just spank himself? #DommeGirlProblems
  • I have to go home early… I left my husband in his cage. #DommeGirlProblems
  • People don’t understand, it’s not about sex, it’s about power. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Men ask and beg to serve me then tell me what they want me to do for them. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Coming up with punishment ideas he actually won’t enjoy. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Trying fetishes and kinky ideas to please him. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Being expected to perform to his schedule because he wants to serve me. #DommeGirlProblems
  • High heels, tight clothes and toys are expensive and not what I really want. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Really cleaning up after his idea of cleaning for his pleasure. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Being thought cruel by others and being told I’m not cruel enough by him. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Playing along, performing, finishing the scene long after I’ve lost any real interest in what I’m doing. #DommeGirlProblems
  • Being told I didn’t do it all like a real FemDom as seen in porn online. #DommeGirlProblems

 

What can a Domme Learn from Porn?

What can you use from porn to your own BDSM pleasure with your sub missive man?

Talk to the Camera

Talk about what you’re doing, before and during the time you are doing it. Announce your intentions, but take your time actually doing anything. Anticipation works wonders. Work with sensory deprivation, like a blindfold, to add drama and suspense.

Get into Costume

Dress for it. I don’t mean the standard fetish wear but dress up. Pick something you feel sexy wearing. Tight jeans, reveal a lot of cleavage, silky lingerie, you know what makes you feel good. When you feel sexy you will enjoy everything more and so will he.

Love what you’re Doing

Act like you’re enjoying it. If you aren’t actually enjoying what you are doing then change what you are doing, or how you are doing it. Your sub man wants to feel you want him and sex with him. Even if you won’t be having sex (due to chastity for instance) make him feel wanted.

 

Will Sex Robots Leave Human Sex Workers Unemployed?

I began to wonder how sex robots would change things for sex workers as I was reading yet another post about female sex robots and their orifices. For men, it seems sex robots are not very different from sex workers, neither are quite human. Beyond the sex worker issue, however, will the availability of sex robots have a big impact on sex work for human sex workers?

I know, people claim men want human interaction. Sex workers say a lot of their job isn’t actually sex. I think it’s all in your perspective of what is sex and what is not. If you’re talking about sex, catering to a client, that’s still along the lines of sex. It’s not a regular conversation with ups and downs about life, the universe and everything. In spite of what men say, in my experience, they want sex. The human element is annoyingly in the way. A woman can say no. A sex worker might say no, or ask for more money.

Sex robots seem ideal for men in this way.  It’s like having your porn and eating it too. Store your sex robot in a closet when you’re done, likely they can even be self-cleaning.

  • Instead of a paying for phone sex – talk dirty to the sex bot.
  • Instead of going out and picking up a sex worker, just pull the sex bot out from under the bed.
  • Instead of looking at online porn and paying for it, dress up your sex bot and do whatever you want to it.

What do you think?

Pick Your Adventure, Domme Style

My boyfriend has recently told me he’s always wanted a femdom. I keen on doing this for him, but I’m not sure how to go about it. What kind of dirty talk do femdoms use, and would I get him to do anything I want him to do and not things he would want to do for me?

Fake, or not? This is one of those borderline comments. Even if it is comment spam, the question is at least relevant.

First, FemDoms may use a book of instructions but there is no guarantee we will follow them.

That’s the difference between being a FemDom (I prefer Domme) or a paid sex worker. Your rules – your way, mostly. Of course, you don’t set fire to him or anything extreme you may do in a fit of anger and regret later. You also take his wishes into account.

Dirty talk is a fetish. Do you like it? If so, try it out in reality and see if both of you like it. Maybe it sounded, or looked, good in pornography but doesn’t work out so well in actuality. I don’t really like dirty talk. I’d have more fun coming up with punishments for a dirty talker than being a dirty talker. But, I would not encourage dirty talk just for the sake of getting “punishment”.

When I think punishment, it is not in quotation marks. It’s real, it’s not all that pleasant or enjoyable. Punishment does not have to be something awful, painful or extreme. The best punishments are something he doesn’t like, would rather avoid but isn’t allergic to. This is where you need to know your boy, his likes and dislikes. What makes him squirm, twitch or need to be rushed to the hospital?

Secondly, what doesn’t he want to do for you?

Why doesn’t he want to do it? Does he have a good, valid and acceptable reason? Pour yourself a nice glass of wine (or coffee in my case as I don’t care for wine that much). Leave your boy to write out a list of reasons why he won’t do what you want him to do. Ask for at least 50 reasons, or however long it takes for you to enjoy that glass of wine without having to share any.

On the other hand, what do you want him to do?

Have a list of your own, prepare ahead.

  • Learn how to give a manicure and pedicure and then pamper you once he has mastered the skills and bought the right colours of nail polish?
  • Clean kitchen, garage, bathroom and muck out the inside of the oven until it sparkles to your satisfaction?
  • Make dinner (from your menu choices), clean up and then become your chauffeur for a night out with the girls?
  • Be your silent, unmoving, foot stool while you watch the TV shows he usually whines about having to watch with you?
  • Polish and wax your car and perform minor repairs, oil changes, etc?

The list is as endless as you want it to be. If he doesn’t want to do something he needs to give good reasons for it. He isn’t running the show – that’s the point of Dom versus sub. Pleasing him isn’t going to work unless you (the Domme) are pleased as well.

So you need to know what pleases you. It may have nothing to do with sex, fetishes or being kinky. Or, cater his kinky desires to your own needs, wants and desires. If he wants to perform domestic service – give him an apron. If he wants to be humiliated – shine a spotlight on him and you don’t even need to say a word. If he wants to sniff your feet – give him your shoes and boots to clean and polish first (no spit shine!).

Do you want to see him squirm? Do you want to tease him? Then play with him but in your own way. What would be fun for you? Make it last. Torment him. Tease him and keep him guessing. Make sure it doesn’t get monotonous for you though. Toss in a few surprises along the way. Or just end things when you’ve had enough. Choose how things end for him and yourself. Do you want an orgasm? Should he be allowed to have a “happy ending”? You, the Domme, decides.