This post started with a pretty simple list of top female sexual fantasies from AskMen. No surprises and kind of plain and atypical really. I narrowed the list down to be less repetitive.
A lot of fantasies involve knowing you are desired. Men have this theme in many fantasies too. I’ve read this is a reason men pay for sex, to have that feeling of knowing their partner desires them. It’s even become a business to offer the “girlfriend/ boyfriend experience”.
I think the people who are most successful in sexual relationships, the men we call great lovers and ladies men, are the men who understand this and give it to their partners. It’s a great way to get the same back. Making someone feel desired keeps them wanting more of those feelings/ wanting the source.
So why don’t more men and women work with this information? I think there is a selfishness and insecurity which keeps many people from giving or getting the romance and sex they want. Maybe having a lot of sex makes them think they do have what they want and yet… they still have this “fantasy” of being loved, seduced, desired, taken…
Change it up – don’t create the scenario create the relationship so the scenarios can follow and be shared.
- Being dominated (force fantasies)
- Seduction (schoolgirl/ stranger)
- Exhibitionism (strip tease)