Against Homophobia

My nephew is a 16 year old boy/ young man in high school. His generation has very different issues from mine, when I was in high school. I remember the campaigns about not doing drugs. His school has campaigns about accepting homosexuality, promoting it as an option. Quite different from the years of campaigning against teens having sex at all.

I think about the issue of homosexuality, not as pro or con but how it has grown and been shoved at us to the point where almost no one dares to say anything against it. If you aren’t pro homosexulaity you are afraid it, homophobic. This is as silly as saying someone against smoking has a fear of cigarettes. I think the fear does come into play as people are not allowed to speak out against the issue of homosexuality, without facing backlash and being accused of being some kind of bigot, snob, or worse. I haven’t heard of anyone beating up homosexuals in the streets in many years. Now, the reverse seems more likely. Speaking your opinion in any way not supporting homosexuality and the other gender options is likely to get you beat up, at least verbally.

Anyway, I do think about the whole thing, as it pertains to the young people especially. I was once asked how I know I am not gay or bisexual. I gave it some thought. How do I know? When I think about having someone’s hands caressing my body in a loving/ sexual way they are a man’s hands. I don’t feel the same about a woman. Yes, I could be turned on by a woman, just as I could be turned on using a sex toy. But, is using a sex toy the same as a lover? Not in my thinking. A man’s hands, the size and shape of them, the extra bit of hair on the back of the hands and knowing the man they

Divorce Aftermath

When I started this site I was thinking less of sex and BDSM and far more about myself, recovering from divorcing the man who had become my best friend (long before we were married). I wrote an introduction to the site and left everything there as far as talking about divorce. But, I think, people need to talk about it more and share their own experiences as they pull themselves along in life.

As an update, I’m now older and wiser, all of 50 years of living. The divorce was over ten years ago, coming up to 15 years since I last spent time with my ex-husband in the same physical space and time. But, we talk online. Kind of ironic because we met as penpals, writing letters back and forth through the mail before the Internet evolved. I guess we are back to that, older and wiser and still connected in that way.

Domme in Daily Life: 30 Days of Dominance

Day 2 – Describe what you are looking for in a submissive and the techniques you might use to instill those characteristics in your submissive. Are you exclusively Dominant in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you Dominant only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you Dominant to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

Just What Every Christmas Tree Needs: A Merman Ornament. – if it’s hip, it’s here

merman ornament

When it comes to random themed Christmas Tree decorations, the Mermen collection of ornaments ranks way up there. Last year I introduced you to the raunchiest ornaments I could find and although it’s hard to beat Pornaments for slightly subversive and sexy tree embellishments, Mermen come awfully close.

handcrafting the merman

Clearly designed for the gay market, they also appeal to those with aquatic fetishes or the many who pride themselves on collecting the most bizarre ornaments they can find. All types of glitter embellished resin bare-chested hunks with fishtails made by December Diamonds are available, from Goalies to Pirates. Hand made with care, the ornaments are made of a light composite resin and they add new ones each year to their collection. While they also make Mermaids and other aquatic themed baubles, the Mermen are the most popular. And they sell out quickly, because they really are fabulous.

Here are just a few:
candy can and hoodiemermen ornaments 1Surf and pearl diver mermantool and timberofficer and rangerDallas and StudBiceps and Fiftypride and clambakeJagger and H20Mario and BoTriton merman and logo

And of course, King Neptune (aka Santa):
Santa merman

Remember, these are only a few. There are a lot more to choose from including Mermaids, couples and more.
Shop for Merman Ornaments here

Just What Every Christmas Tree Needs: A Merman Ornament. – if it’s hip, it’s here.

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The Korean TV artist who inspired fetish photography

The intriguing intersection between New-York born photographer Eric Kroll, renowned for his tantalizing, latex-laden fetish portraits and Korean-American visual artist and sculptor Nam June Paik began in Manhattan. According to Kroll, Paik helped to mold him as a young artist from the mid-70s onwards, elevating his art and teaching him “the importance of including absurdity in my work”.

A provocateur of media art, Nam June Paik utilised video and television in new and creative ways from the early 60s. He was one of the first artists to successfully marry the mediums of art and technology, with works such as Nixon, a sculpture made of cathode-ray-tube televisions, and Bakelite Robot.

Eric Kroll is a Dazed regular, having unearthed his shots of the roadside sex joints of 70s America for the Autumn issue. Drawing from the likes of bondage photographers such as Man Ray, Kroll captures fetishism placed in unconventional positions: women adorned with cactus needles, cellophane or seeds, wearing leather and red rubber.

The images from Kroll illustrate the artistic duo’s colourful, collaborative encounters. From a portrait of Paik playing emperor, to snaps of the artist and his multi-sensory pieces, across decades.

A recent gallery installation highlights the creative relationship between the pair: featuring raw and intimate photos of Paik, captured by Kroll, as well as original drawings and sculptures. Kroll also showed a never-before-seen video documentation of Paik’s work creating a video sculpture. Working together between 1977 and 1994, one of their most notable collaborations is Reclining Buddha, displaying Playboy centerfold Nicole Woods.

December Diamonds Trition Merman Ornament

December Diamonds Triton Merman Ornament is lying on the Bed with his Shirt Open revealing His Amazing Pecs,& Six Pack Hard Abs, Holding a Glass of Red Wine, & Waiting for You!!! Thick Brown Hair,Sculpted Face, Light Blue Shirt with Rhinestone Accents on Shirt Pocket Button, & Belt, Denim Blue Tail with Tail Tip the Same Color as Trition’s Shirt.Approximately 7 inches long,& the First of the 2013 Mermen to Sell Out from December Diamonds 4 months before 2013 Christmas!. Sooo Hot!!! Hand-painted & Gift Boxed Limited Edition.Will mail within 1-2 business days. Photos which follow are collages made by December Diamond’s of the other 2013 Mermen. Almost all of them are Sold Out from December Diamonds until mid 2014.

Amazon.com – December Diamonds Trition Merman Ornament is lying on the Bed with his Shirt Open revealing His Amazing Pecs, & Six Pack Hard Abs, Holding a Glass of Red Wine, & Waiting for You!!! Thick Brown Hair, Sculpted Face, Light Blue Shirt with Rhinestone Accents on Shirt Pocket Button, & Belt, Denim Blue Tail with Tail Tip the Same Color as Trition’s Shirt.Approximately 7 inches long, & the First of the 2013 Mermen to Sell Out from December Diamonds. Sooo Hot!!! Handpainted & Gift Boxed Limited Edition. –.

Source: Amazon.com – December Diamonds Trition Merman Ornament is lying on the Bed with his Shirt Open revealing His Amazing Pecs, & Six Pack Hard Abs, Holding a Glass of Red Wine, & Waiting for You!!! Thick Brown Hair, Sculpted Face, Light Blue Shirt with Rhinestone Accents on Shirt Pocket Button, & Belt, Denim Blue Tail with Tail Tip the Same Color as Trition’s Shirt.Approximately 7 inches long, & the First of the 2013 Mermen to Sell Out from December Diamonds. Sooo Hot!!! Handpainted & Gift Boxed Limited Edition. –