Change things around and bring him flowers, chocolates and a sincerely meant compliment. If you can bake make him a cake, a pie or cookies, homemade may not be perfect but it’s far more intimate/ personal than something from a bakery.
Stop suggesting changes to his wardrobe and bring him flowers in bright colours instead. Later you can try a shirt or tie, inspired by the colours he liked in the flowers. Or, not, really how terrible is it that he dresses himself, even if you don’t approve of some of his choices. Keep in mind that he wants to look good, he just doesn’t want to be told to change.
A compliment will work much better. Tell him when he’s looking good. Tell him he’s having a great hair day. Tell him those pants look great on him, that shirt brings out the colour of his eyes and he looks so polished and professional when he wears that suit.
People like positive feedback, which is what compliments are. No one is going to accuse you of nagging when you give a sincere compliment to them. (Don’t try turning negative feedback into a compliment – that’s just mean and phoney).
Complimenting men is fun, once you get started. Compliment random men. The guy who held the elevator or the door for you. Smile when you say “thanks” and actually look at him too. Such a small thing can really make a difference in someone’s day, for both of you.
Being pleasant never goes out of style.
Guys love compliments
‘As men, we crave compliments. Nothing will make us happier then to be told we look good, smell good, etc. This is why… we men tend to compliment women too much sometimes. We sometimes over use the golden rule, we treat women as we want to be treated.
‘I have worked with some pretty attractive men who would get hit on often which was nothing for them but the second someone actually complimented them they lit up like a god damn gorgeous Christmas tree.’ – Betamaletim
Quote from a post at Marie Claire.
Nice to find this mostly forgotten blog by Erin Dunphy today. It all turned out well.
Source: 1000 Days of Celibacy
Something to do on a long, rainy weekend together?
Simple to just write out a list where each number rolled is something sensual. For instance:
- a tickle
- kiss on the cheek
- nipple licking
- a compliment
- barely there touch
- kiss on the lips
- a long hug
- light spanking
- a slow dance
- strip tease
- back rub
- ice cubes
These are just my ideas to get you started. Fill in your own favourite things. (Write down where you hid things should you get distracted and forget later).
Select 12 items to hide around the house unbeknownst to one another and write out your clues. As each one of you find a clue you take a roll of the dice and do the roll, says Beauregard. The possibility of 24 acts of love and lust minimum, what thrill and this does not take into account any of the main events.
12 Ways To Bring The Sexy Back To Your Relationship | YourTango.
1. Casual sex is usually on a man’s terms.
2. Casual sex is always about him getting off.
3. Casual sex lacks passion.
5. Some women like being Ms. Right, not Ms. Right Now. A lot of sexually empowered women want to maintain their autonomy but don’t want to feel like a stand-in until something better comes around. Owning one’s sexuality and takes a lot of pride and involves a lot of ego. A lot of independent women want their fuck buddy to think that they’re hot and desirable and not just available.
via 5 Reasons Why Some Women Don’t Like Casual Sex .
I skipped #4 because I judge myself rather than believing I need religion to tell me right and wrong.
This is a great list. Several things I’ve thought all put together. It’s not just casual sex, but that casual sex is all men seem to offer even when they claim or promise they want more.
That doesn’t leave you feeling very happy if you don’t want to be yet another Ms. Right Now.
- I’m giving you a massage tonight.
- Just thinking about how gorgeous you are.
- I. Love. You.
- I want to kiss you all over.
- I’m picking you up after work.
- The rest of the evening is a surprise.
- What I would give to be holding you right now.
- You’re incredible. In case I haven’t told you that lately.
- I’m still thinking about how radiant you looked this morning.
- You are the sexiest woman I’ve ever known.
- I adore you.
I know you can do better than my list and I want to help all the hapless men out there whose idea of a sexy text is: “What r u up 2? LOL.”
via Dear Men, Here Are 10 Texts You Can Send the Woman in Your Life Right Now to Make Her Day – xoJane.
Why does romance have to be dead? I can remember being at work and imagining I had someone who would send me a note like this. That was before mobile phones so, of course, my note would have been delivered along with flowers (or in person).
On the other hand… I was a client in an office when a full bouquet of flowers were delivered to one of the men there. They were from his girlfriend, not for any special reason. I’ve never forgotten how touched he was, even a little emotional.
So, romance is not dead and romance is not just for men or women to be the givers. Anyone in love can instigate some romance. For no special reason at all. Just show them they are special – that’s the reason.
I like personality quizzes online. They don’t mean anything really but they can give you a nice pick-me-up.
You Are Fanciful Sexy
You are sexy because you are very dreamy. You are often lost in a lush fantasy.You are a sincere and devoted partner. You are attracted to troubled souls.You will do anything for the person you love, and in the bedroom, you aim to please.Once you fall for someone, you’re hooked. You give all of yourself to make the relationship work.Of all the types, you’re the most likely to have a secret fantasy life.
And for you, your fantasy life can be more real than your actual life at times.
But real people, real friends, and real life are worlds more complex than everything these apps (and their infinite cousins) attempt to imitate. When “real life” is peppered with men at bars raising their fists to you; or male friends slinging pick-up lines that will never work before your eyes; or the knowledge that no space is purely safe for a woman to just be, we can’t rely on robotic dating apps to sort and harmonize our relationships with men. But it’s not totally the apps’ fault: we have to wonder what’s wrong with the men.
via – Tinder Is Dead.
I’ve never used Tinder. I really just added the conclusion to the post because I had to post the screen capture of that one part of the post. It is her re-post of something a man sent her on Tinder. Online dating seems pretty futile on a good day but something like this… it has to make you laugh (or cry later when you think it might be okay to be alone after all).
When I was 16, still fresh and far less cynical or skeptical, I read the old style of Harlequin romance novels. The heroines were always virgins and no one thought about using condoms. Men were gentlemen. Women didn’t have sex on a first date. Romance was syrupy sweet with flowers and dates that didn’t include making out or sex. Don’t think there weren’t steamy kissing scenes and lots of holding and hugging and so on. The old Harlequin romances stopped just short of sex.
Now I’m not 16 any more. I’m somewhere in the middle of being middle aged. At least I hope I am. No one has really given me a cut off date on that. (I’m not really looking too hard for one). I don’t read the old Harlequin romances any more. They seem pretty standard now. The stories are the same, only the names and locations have been changed. (I read paranormal romance, I admit but I prefer science fiction, mysteries and less horrifying horror books). I still like some romance in the books I read but I like humour much more.
My style has changed. I’ve gone from syrupy romance to wanting romance to have something practical and real behind it.
It must be something that happens with age. I still read younger women posting quotes, photos and stories about romance, heavy on the sweet and syrupy side. I can’t get into any of it. I don’t see it as something real.
So, I wondered about my style of romance now. I do know that I still want romance. A little hand holding, if his hands are clean. I like the door opened and I like to open the door for him too.
Paper flowers are best when made with old paper, already written on. Like newspaper – except it has a habit of shedding ink. I found this flower on The Craftinomicon