Against Homophobia

My nephew is a 16 year old boy/ young man in high school. His generation has very different issues from mine, when I was in high school. I remember the campaigns about not doing drugs. His school has campaigns about accepting homosexuality, promoting it as an option. Quite different from the years of campaigning against teens having sex at all.

I think about the issue of homosexuality, not as pro or con but how it has grown and been shoved at us to the point where almost no one dares to say anything against it. If you aren’t pro homosexulaity you are afraid it, homophobic. This is as silly as saying someone against smoking has a fear of cigarettes. I think the fear does come into play as people are not allowed to speak out against the issue of homosexuality, without facing backlash and being accused of being some kind of bigot, snob, or worse. I haven’t heard of anyone beating up homosexuals in the streets in many years. Now, the reverse seems more likely. Speaking your opinion in any way not supporting homosexuality and the other gender options is likely to get you beat up, at least verbally.

Anyway, I do think about the whole thing, as it pertains to the young people especially. I was once asked how I know I am not gay or bisexual. I gave it some thought. How do I know? When I think about having someone’s hands caressing my body in a loving/ sexual way they are a man’s hands. I don’t feel the same about a woman. Yes, I could be turned on by a woman, just as I could be turned on using a sex toy. But, is using a sex toy the same as a lover? Not in my thinking. A man’s hands, the size and shape of them, the extra bit of hair on the back of the hands and knowing the man they

Another Social Media Thing

I’ve been using Scoop.it for awhile. This is my second account. I used to have more topics, but when I started my second account (again, not keeping two accounts), there were even more limits on free accounts. Now it isn’t even working that well. At this point I’m probably doing more for their traffic than they do for mine. Not that I’m getting huge traffic and not that they particularly gear the site for sexual or adult topics either. Is it worth keeping?

I do like having a place to post links, beyond this site where I can’t just post the link and leave it. I like posting links for people to find and read more if they have an interest. But, if it’s on my site I have to add some kind of commentary, grab an image (usually) and add the link to the source. One of the things I like about using Scoop.it is the software which does that for me.

Also, I like using the search to see what else is suggested for my topic. I can’t find something like that which I can run myself, self-hosted especially. I would prefer not to use a web service, they can disappear or change without notice or approval.

So, staying with Scoop.it in particular is becoming less ideal for me. I could get a business (premium) account but… that makes so little practical sense considering my budget of zilch.

One other feature of Scoop.it is auto posting to social media. I’ve never been a complete fan of that. But, I don’t mind it so much since it only posts once and I forget to do it myself.

I will watch for an alternative but, I wonder if life would be simpler without it. Do I use it mainly for myself and the idea of generating traffic or do I really like sharing links this way? Would it be just as simple to create a feed of links in my own sidebar here and auto share posts with a plugin? I would miss the suggested content but, the reason I started writing this was the break down in that feature. It used to be much better. Possibly, they (Scoop.it) has limited that more than before as well. Tonight, it was especially not useful, and hasn’t been for several weeks.

So… more choices and more changes.

What Would you Write to Win the Bad Sex in Fiction Award?

Put some thought into what makes a really bad sex scene. Don’t make it too unbelievable, something no one would ever have written, but how bad can you go?

Twisted arms and legs, body parts which move in odd ways or seem to multiply? Words that don’t suit the mood, aggravate the mood or completely bypass the mood and make you want to read something with fluffy bunnies instead?

Write about sex in a bad, messed up way. Play with it.
Idea source: Bad Sex in Fiction Award 2015: What are they and does Morrissey have a shot? | News | Culture | The Independent

His knuckle rubbed her pussy button, giving her a hard on. Once she was really wet, dripping like a leaky faucet, he dived into her crotch shoving deep, mining her with his throbbing, purple pussy eater.

It doesn’t need to be long. In cases like this, short is a good thing. It is fun to write, without the pressure of trying to make it good.

What’s in a Name for Sex Writers?

Of course I use a pen-name with this blog. I don’t feel the need to change that. Any time I do consider using my name I remember the feeling of having someone recognize in public and expect me to be who they thought I was. This blog is personal but it is not everything I am. I’m a quiet person, not so much private, but quiet. I don’t enjoy talking about sex and focusing on sex exclusively. I am interested in so much beyond what you read here. But, this is what it is and where it is. It’s a limited edition, literally.

Should you use an erotica pen-name? Or should you create a new writing persona for your erotica?

Source: Erotica pen-names; should you lie to your readers?

Blog Slow Down Due to Plugin Madness

I tried a plugin which would have been nice as an idea, responsive images. However, some how I know have a lot of broken images. The plugin (or something else, to be fair) changed all the names of my image files inside the posts. So the image I have is not the one actually in the post. This is going to take some time to clean up.

Let that be a lesson to me…

Not that it will. I have too much fun plugin shopping.

Adult, Sex and BDSM Artists on Patreon

Patreon is a network for artists: musicians, podcasters, video makers, bloggers, game makers, writers, photographers, cartoonists, pretty much anything you can put into a digital file and share online.

The idea is for artists to display what they create and get sponsors/ patrons to enable them to keep working on their creations. Anyone can get an account on Patreon and choose to give financial support to the artists with a monthly amount based on how much they want to spend and how often the artist creates new art. Read more about it all on Patreon. I’m not explaining it as well as the founder and staff do.

I thought I would find more adult artists on Patreon. So far, just these: