Divorce Aftermath

When I started this site I was thinking less of sex and BDSM and far more about myself, recovering from divorcing the man who had become my best friend (long before we were married). I wrote an introduction to the site and left everything there as far as talking about divorce. But, I think, people need to talk about it more and share their own experiences as they pull themselves along in life.

As an update, I’m now older and wiser, all of 50 years of living. The divorce was over ten years ago, coming up to 15 years since I last spent time with my ex-husband in the same physical space and time. But, we talk online. Kind of ironic because we met as penpals, writing letters back and forth through the mail before the Internet evolved. I guess we are back to that, older and wiser and still connected in that way.

Just What Every Christmas Tree Needs: A Merman Ornament. – if it’s hip, it’s here

merman ornament

When it comes to random themed Christmas Tree decorations, the Mermen collection of ornaments ranks way up there. Last year I introduced you to the raunchiest ornaments I could find and although it’s hard to beat Pornaments for slightly subversive and sexy tree embellishments, Mermen come awfully close.

handcrafting the merman

Clearly designed for the gay market, they also appeal to those with aquatic fetishes or the many who pride themselves on collecting the most bizarre ornaments they can find. All types of glitter embellished resin bare-chested hunks with fishtails made by December Diamonds are available, from Goalies to Pirates. Hand made with care, the ornaments are made of a light composite resin and they add new ones each year to their collection. While they also make Mermaids and other aquatic themed baubles, the Mermen are the most popular. And they sell out quickly, because they really are fabulous.

Here are just a few:
candy can and hoodiemermen ornaments 1Surf and pearl diver mermantool and timberofficer and rangerDallas and StudBiceps and Fiftypride and clambakeJagger and H20Mario and BoTriton merman and logo

And of course, King Neptune (aka Santa):
Santa merman

Remember, these are only a few. There are a lot more to choose from including Mermaids, couples and more.
Shop for Merman Ornaments here

Just What Every Christmas Tree Needs: A Merman Ornament. – if it’s hip, it’s here.

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The Korean TV artist who inspired fetish photography

The intriguing intersection between New-York born photographer Eric Kroll, renowned for his tantalizing, latex-laden fetish portraits and Korean-American visual artist and sculptor Nam June Paik began in Manhattan. According to Kroll, Paik helped to mold him as a young artist from the mid-70s onwards, elevating his art and teaching him “the importance of including absurdity in my work”.

A provocateur of media art, Nam June Paik utilised video and television in new and creative ways from the early 60s. He was one of the first artists to successfully marry the mediums of art and technology, with works such as Nixon, a sculpture made of cathode-ray-tube televisions, and Bakelite Robot.

Eric Kroll is a Dazed regular, having unearthed his shots of the roadside sex joints of 70s America for the Autumn issue. Drawing from the likes of bondage photographers such as Man Ray, Kroll captures fetishism placed in unconventional positions: women adorned with cactus needles, cellophane or seeds, wearing leather and red rubber.

The images from Kroll illustrate the artistic duo’s colourful, collaborative encounters. From a portrait of Paik playing emperor, to snaps of the artist and his multi-sensory pieces, across decades.

A recent gallery installation highlights the creative relationship between the pair: featuring raw and intimate photos of Paik, captured by Kroll, as well as original drawings and sculptures. Kroll also showed a never-before-seen video documentation of Paik’s work creating a video sculpture. Working together between 1977 and 1994, one of their most notable collaborations is Reclining Buddha, displaying Playboy centerfold Nicole Woods.

December Diamonds Trition Merman Ornament

December Diamonds Triton Merman Ornament is lying on the Bed with his Shirt Open revealing His Amazing Pecs,& Six Pack Hard Abs, Holding a Glass of Red Wine, & Waiting for You!!! Thick Brown Hair,Sculpted Face, Light Blue Shirt with Rhinestone Accents on Shirt Pocket Button, & Belt, Denim Blue Tail with Tail Tip the Same Color as Trition’s Shirt.Approximately 7 inches long,& the First of the 2013 Mermen to Sell Out from December Diamonds 4 months before 2013 Christmas!. Sooo Hot!!! Hand-painted & Gift Boxed Limited Edition.Will mail within 1-2 business days. Photos which follow are collages made by December Diamond’s of the other 2013 Mermen. Almost all of them are Sold Out from December Diamonds until mid 2014.

Amazon.com – December Diamonds Trition Merman Ornament is lying on the Bed with his Shirt Open revealing His Amazing Pecs, & Six Pack Hard Abs, Holding a Glass of Red Wine, & Waiting for You!!! Thick Brown Hair, Sculpted Face, Light Blue Shirt with Rhinestone Accents on Shirt Pocket Button, & Belt, Denim Blue Tail with Tail Tip the Same Color as Trition’s Shirt.Approximately 7 inches long, & the First of the 2013 Mermen to Sell Out from December Diamonds. Sooo Hot!!! Handpainted & Gift Boxed Limited Edition. –.

Source: Amazon.com – December Diamonds Trition Merman Ornament is lying on the Bed with his Shirt Open revealing His Amazing Pecs, & Six Pack Hard Abs, Holding a Glass of Red Wine, & Waiting for You!!! Thick Brown Hair, Sculpted Face, Light Blue Shirt with Rhinestone Accents on Shirt Pocket Button, & Belt, Denim Blue Tail with Tail Tip the Same Color as Trition’s Shirt.Approximately 7 inches long, & the First of the 2013 Mermen to Sell Out from December Diamonds. Sooo Hot!!! Handpainted & Gift Boxed Limited Edition. –

When Little Robots Attack

The first time I just hurt my foot when I stepped on one of the toy soldiers. I didn’t know how it had gotten into my room. Of course, I blamed my little brother. He had all the toys, especially miniature toy soldiers, robots and little green aliens. Some of them were cute. But, when I actually looked at the faces… they were threatening.

One morning I found one of the mini robots on my dresser and another on the floor below. My brother said he hadn’t been in my room and I kind of believed him. He’s a pretty good kid, for a little brother. I’m 9 years older so he doesn’t get away with much.

Anyway, I didn’t really think a lot about the little toys. I returned them to my brother and went on with life. I had a lot to do now, high school, friends and boys now that my parents were not treating me so much like a kid.

The night I found one in my bed… that was freaky. The sheets were still all pulled up, the bed wasn’t even rumpled. My brother couldn’t have done that. But, what could I tell anyone? I’d sound crazy. That was the week I was going to have the house to myself. I didn’t even have to babysit my brother because they were driving him out for some school weekend thing and staying over night to bring him home on Sunday.

I had friends over on Friday night. We made popcorn, watched movies my parents wouldn’t approve of. I don’t know why, they were pretty awful movies. After a few minutes we just kept laughing at how stupid they were.

Everyone went home. I went to bed, after cleaning up, of course.

I woke up, nude in my bed, my sheets and blankets pulled down past my feet. Little toy robots, aliens and soldier seemed to fill my room. Lined up along the top of my dressed, my night table and every other surface. I could see them on my book shelves, my computer desk. They were behind me on my headboard when I sat up.

I could see them, moving.

I dashed into the hall and locked myself in the bathroom. I would have called for my parents but I remembered I was alone. I don’t know what happened to my night gown. I didn’t want to call for help and have someone find me naked.

Then the first of the mini men started coming in, under the door.

A kinky fetish dictionary of taboo terms 

AAblutophilia: A fetish for baths or showers that usually centers around a naked person lathering themselves up.ABR: “Adult breast feeding.”Acomoclitic: A fetish for hairless genitals. Similar to: gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia.Acrophilia: A fetish for having sex in high places.Acrotomophilia: A fetish for amputees and shortened limbs.Acucullophilia: A fetish for circumcised men.Acousticophilia: A fetish involving sounds. This can include such things as being aroused by music or a partner’s moaning.Actirasty: A fetish for sun exposure. This is often a fetish of tanorexics, fans of outdoor sex, or those who only date really tan people.Adolescentilism: A fetish for acting, dressing, or being treated like an adolescent.Agalmatophilia: A fetish for a human-like doll, mannequin, or statue. This does not include the use of sex dolls merely as surrogates for real partners. Similar to pygmalionism.Age Play: A type of fetishistic role-playing in which people pretend to be substantially older or younger than they are. Includes adolescentilism and infantilism.Agonophiliac: A fetish for violence or fighting as foreplay.Agoraphilia: A fetish for sex in public places.Agrexophilia: A fetish for having other people know about your sexual activities. This can include people with agoraphilia, those who like to have loud sex, exhibitionists, people who like to put their homemade sex tapes online, or those who simply like to brag about their conquests.Air Inflation: One of the most common types of inflation fetish. This usually involves the fantasy of inflating a person with a bicycle pump to a comically large size. Some practitioner of this fetish enjoy pumping air into their partner’s anus.Algolagnia: A fetish for pain.Allorgasmia: A fetish for fantasizing about someone other than your current partner.Allotriorasty: A fetish for sex partners of another race, ethnicity, or nationality.Alphmegamia: A fetish for older partners.Altocalciphilia: A fetish for high heels. Common among those with a foot fetish. Synonyms: retifism.Alvinolagnia A fetish for stomachs. Likely linked to the importance of wide hips when it comes to natural childbirth. Synonyms: partialism.Amaurophilia: A fetish for not being seen during sex. This usually involves turning off the lights or blindfolding a partner. Some peeping toms and fans of glory holes have this fetish.Anaclitism: An erotic fixation on the objects one was exposed to as an infant, such as anal thermometers, bibs, bottles, pacifiers. Similar to: autonepiophilia, infantilism.Anasteemaphilia: A fetish for partners who are much shorter or taller.Androidism: A fetish for humanoid robots. Similar to agalmatophilia and Pygmalionism.Andromimetophilia: When a woman is sexually aroused by dressing, acting, or being treated like a man.Anophelorastia: A fetish for ravaging a partner.Antholagnia: A fetish for the scent or sight of flowers.Aphephilia: A fetish for human touch.Apotemnophilia: A fetish for having your own limbs amputated.Aquaophilia: A fetish for water that goes far beyond enjoying sex on the beach or in a hot tub.Archnephilia: A fetish for spiders.Asiaphile: A fetish for Asians.Asphyxiophilia: A fetish for being suffocated or choked.Asthenolagnia: A fetish for weakness or being humiliated.Autagonistophilia: A fetish for having others spy on you, particularly while naked or engaging in sexual acts. As opposed to exhibitionists who get off on exposing themselves to unsuspecting victims, a person with this fetish creates situations in which other people may see her naked, like sun bathing nude or changing in front of an open window.Autassassinophilia: A fetish for coming close to death, particularly during sex.Autoandrophilia: A fetish for women who dress, behave, or look like men.Autoerotic Asphyxiation: Choking yourself while masturbating to achieve a more intense orgasm. This often involves the use of belts or ropes. People who have died from this form of masturbation include, kung-fu master David Carradine and INXS rocker Michael Hutchence.Autogynephilia: A fetish in which a man derives sexual pleasure from imagining himself as a woman. This is a common fetish for cross dressers. Origins: coined by Ray Blanchard.Autonepiophilia: A fetish for acting, dressing, and being treated like an infant. Synonym: anaclitism, infantilism.Avisodomy: A form of bestiality involving sex with a bird.Axillism: A fetish for armpits.BBathroom Denial: A type of denial play in which the dom refuses to let the sub urinate and/or defecate.BDSM: “Bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism.” A catchall term for fetish play.Belonephilia: A fetish for sharp objects such as knifes, needles, or razors.BFP: “Bound for pleasure.” A BDSM term.Biastophilia: A sexual disorder in which arousal is derived from the thought or act of assaulting another, often in a sexual manner.Body Inflation: Being sexually aroused by the fantasy of physically expanding yourself, or others. This fetish ofte

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