FemDom Fashion

The expected FemDom attire is silly. In this photo that leather neck brace and those boots must not be at all comfortable. I’d only wear stuff like that if someone paid me too. Paid in advance!

Fetish wear for women is too often a male fantasy. What would a woman wear, by her own choice? How do women Doms see themselves? If they took out all the male perspective how would Dom women dress?

I wouldn’t wear this. Though I like the idea of the long gloves, even those would be more for theatre, performance art.

There’s something innocent, but also something pure about vintage Femdom pictures. Back in those days being submissive actually meant something. You had to go to a sexshop to buy these magazines and you’d go over the stories and pictures again and again. There weren’t that many professional Mistresses around in those days, so finding and visiting them was a big deal. The…

Source: Vintage Femdom – Femdom Times

Lace Bow Elastic Collar

You can buy this collar or… you can make one very much like it.

This collar design could be a DIY project for your boy. Take him to the craft supplies store and let him pick the colours himself. (Of course, you must approve).

You will need:

  • an elastic (not a rubber band) which can fit around his neck snugly but not tight.
  • a fancy button, maybe something metallic or sparkly.
  • ribbon, enough to make a double bow.
  • lace, just enough to gather under the bow.
  • sewing needle and thread.

This shouldn’t be an expensive project for those budget-minding types (like myself.

If you can thread your ribbon through the button hole do so. Likely most won’t work that way. So just wrap your ribbon into a double bow, thread your needle and sew the button into place to hold the ribbon in shape.

Next, gather the lace at one end to form a half circle and sew that into place behind your ribbon and the button.

Lastly, sew the ends of your elastic together and sew the ribbon/lace/button into the ends at the same time. Basically, just pull it all together and try to keep it tidy looking. If you like, add a scrap of fabric to cover your stitches and smooth out the finished product.

Now your boy has a fancy new collar! Wear it well.

 

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Source: $15.99 BM Lace Bow Elastic Collar For Dog Cat Black Wine Red Polyester/Acrylic Dogs Dog Collars – Bopmix

Slavery Bracelet Rules

Use this to make your own rules, if you like the idea of a slavery bracelet for your man.

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The bracelet rules for the male:

  1. Once it’s on your wrist, you are not allowed to take it off. And there are no exceptions. She is in charge now, and she is the only one who can take it off.

If you’ll take it off, it means you broke a contract you had with her, and she can decide on the punishment, and in addition she can claim your slavery for a double period of time.

  1. As long as it’s on his wrist, you are her slave, and she is your owner. The status of your relationship or marriage has changed, and it will stay like this until she removes the bracelet.
  1. At the moment, you are wearing the bracelet, you must bow down to the floor and kiss her feet/shoes until she decides it’s enough. By doing it, you admit that the status has change, and you are under her control.
  1. During the time the bracelet is on you, you are obligated to accept her punishments. Once she calls you for punishment you cannot refuse. She is allowed to use the whip or leather belt to punish you as much as she wants.

Rules for the goddess:

  1. You, and only you have the right to take the bracelet off and release him.
  2. Before you put the bracelet, make sure that you are both know how long will be the period.

In case you both did not discuss how long he will be under your control, and for some reason the bracelet is on. The time will be the same as the last period.

 

  1. If you decide that it will be for 14 days. You should release him after 14 days and don’t try to use your power to extend the time since he cannot take off the bracelet by himself, and he is depended on you to be released.
  1. You cannot extend the period as punishment. If he was not obedient, punish him as much as you like. But do not extend the period because of it
  1. You can extend the period only on one exception. If he missed a day, for some reason, you entitle to extend it in two days for every one day he missed.

For example: you both decided on 21 days.   During the period, he needed to stay at work later one day, and he was sick and could not serve you for two days.  He missed three days total and as compensation you have the right to extend the period in six days (two days for every day he missed). There will be no argument about it from his side.

Make sure to force these rules. He must respect these rules and the sacredness of the slavery bracelet.

Source: Goddess Tip : The slavery bracelet

Image source: Instructables – with instructions for making a simple slave bracelet.

Clit Clip: Clip-Ons for your Pussy

First of all, would anyone buy this without knowing how it stays on? The seller offers instructions with purchase, but I’d want to know before buying it.

The best thing about this clitoris clip-on is being able to experiment with clit piercing without actually getting holes punched into your delicate bits. Just like clip-on earrings instead of pierced earrings. It’s a great idea. But, how does it stay on? Does it pinch the way clip-on earrings often did? Or does it fall off kind of easily? Clip-on earrings used to slip off or be too tight. I think that’s really why people ended up getting their ears pierced instead. It was a nuisance to lose so many earrings.
Crystalled Beauty Clit Clip Stud Button Hugger Under The Hood Intimate Jewelry & Gifts Silvertone base clip features a 3/4 inch (2cm) goldtone
Source: Clit Clip Stud Under The Hoode Crystalled Beauty by UnderTheHoode

I do admit I’m curious, in a kinky way, about this too.

Dommes can have a lot of assorted fantasies. We don’t live in a box on your computer.

My fantasy of having a clit piercing isn’t so much about ownership as belonging to someone, or WITH someone. There is a difference. But, either way it is being marked for (or by) someone else.

I’d like to find a submissive man who gets that distinction. I really don’t want full time ownership of a man. I want a man with a mind and will of his own. I want an equal partner who I also own, a man who belongs with me and knows (and likes) his place. Maybe that only makes sense to me.

I’m not likely to buy the clit-on. But, I will remember the idea and I am posting it here. Share the idea with someone you love, or want to love.

Pretty Collar for BDSM Beginners

A smart, yet big, collar for anyone beginning BDSM and trying the reality of a collar. This collar will feel firm around the neck, be noticeable if you want to wear it in public but, it is easy to remove should there be any unexpected trouble. Even if the ribbons knot you can still get out of it quickly (just cut the ribbons).

Soft black mesh neck cuff A mesh and black satin neck cuff. This luxurious piece laces up the front with gloss black elastic loops and black satin

Source: Neck Collar Cuff by nearerthemoon on Etsy

Play Dress up with BDSM Barbie

I like the creativity of dressing up dolls in fetish clothing and situations. I have made tiny clothing for dolls before, even dolls smaller than Barbie. It’s tricky and nitpicky to get the details right and all those little stitches. I guess some people will use glue rather than sew the outfits. I didn’t.

Posing dolls is a fun hobby. Not everyone brings the fetish and kink into it. But, it does add an element of The Perils of Pauline (damsel in distress).

The photos here are from Tears of Desire, which makes and sells fetish wear for Barbie. Only two items available right now. Likely requests could be taken for more.

Latex doll dress is handcrafted from .040mm black latex. Outfit includes 1 black latex mini skirt, 1 black latex tube top and 2 black latex arm

barbie collarSource: Doll 4 pc Latex Mini Dress skirt top and arm by TearsOfDesire