Stop Calling them Uniforms

mountiecostumeWhen a uniform becomes customized for various cultures it stops being a uniform. A uniform is… uniform. When it isn’t uniform, all the same, then it becomes similar, not uniform. If the Mounties, police, fire fighters, etc. want to adapt their uniform doesn’t it become a costume? I think allowing various cultures (I am purposely not being specific because the specific culture is not the issue) to have different uniforms makes the uniform mean less.

The original point of a uniform was identification, everyone looking the same, being recognizable and having respect. You see the Mounties and know who they are by the uniform. If you see someone wearing a Mountie costume, you think they are on the way to a party and you don’t consider them someone you need to pay much attention to. Badges don’t mean much from a distance, behind a door or to anyone who couldn’t tell a real badge from a fake one.

People in authority like Mounties, military and government employees need to be recognizable in order to have that authority and be trusted. Since we were children we have seen Mounties in their dress uniforms and we expect a Mountie to be in that uniform.

But, more than the public, what about the Mounties themselves? Why change the uniform which has severed generations of Mounties of all cultures up until now? I’m assuming all Mounties have two arms, two legs, one head so they should all be able to wear the standard uniform. What is the real need for change in this very old tradition worn with pride by generations of people.

I don’t know. But, I do think they should stop calling them uniforms, because they aren’t uniforms any more. That tradition has been lost. mountie

FemDom Halloween Costumes Needed

I found these costumes for a BDSM couple but, the order is reversed. She should be the key holder and he is the one locked up. Of course, the ball and chain could work either way. But, not everyone would understand she has him in chains versus him being chained to her. It could help if he were as scantily clad as she is. ballchain

lockkeySource: Adult Lock and Key Couples Costume – Halloween Costumes

Dogs, Ponies… Why not Chicken Play?

Why are dogs and horses popular as play animals and not birds? Chickens in particular.

I’d have a lot of fun with a little man dressed in a chicken mask. I’m less fond of pigeons but that would work too.

Once you got him into the chicken mask, consider white wings too. Likely you could find some white angel wings at a costume shop. But, adding floppy chicken feet would be a great extra – if you can find them. Still, start with the mask.

Keep in mind, the mask is likely to get hot. So give your chicken boy plenty of water to peck at.

Source: Chicken Head Mask Part Halloween Costume Theater Prop Novelty Latex Rubber Animal Head Mask Cockscomb from Lmon1986,$16.12 | DHgate.com

The Sagittarius Mistress

The Sagittarian Mistress: This is a classy, sophisticated and powerful woman with a stunning, often athletic and tall build. She has an infectious energy and a magnetic personality. Her motto is “I SEEK your devotion!” As a natural exhibitionist she loves parties or group sessions expecting her slaves to demonstrate their devotion and admiration in public. As an archer she also loves to shoot down her slaves which gives her an obsessive love of needles and piercing. Someone who always stands out in a crowd, she loves shiny materials and elaborate costumes. You can never escape this woman as she will hunt you down, she is not possessive though, so don’t expect long-term commitment. Once you have served your purpose you’ll be left in the dust of her galloping exit.

This comes from Mistrress Sidonia: FemDom Horoscopes

I’d say it is only half right for me. I do like shiny things and vibrant colours. I consider myself sophisticated, whether I actually am or not. But, I’m not athletic. I really don’t like anything piercing the skin – gives me a real “ick!” feeling.

I like reading the characteristics more than predictions with astrology. You never know what will happen day to day and I like that. Too much predicting takes something away from the randomness of life.

What can a Domme Learn from Porn?

What can you use from porn to your own BDSM pleasure with your sub missive man?

Talk to the Camera

Talk about what you’re doing, before and during the time you are doing it. Announce your intentions, but take your time actually doing anything. Anticipation works wonders. Work with sensory deprivation, like a blindfold, to add drama and suspense.

Get into Costume

Dress for it. I don’t mean the standard fetish wear but dress up. Pick something you feel sexy wearing. Tight jeans, reveal a lot of cleavage, silky lingerie, you know what makes you feel good. When you feel sexy you will enjoy everything more and so will he.

Love what you’re Doing

Act like you’re enjoying it. If you aren’t actually enjoying what you are doing then change what you are doing, or how you are doing it. Your sub man wants to feel you want him and sex with him. Even if you won’t be having sex (due to chastity for instance) make him feel wanted.

 

What Would Women Like in Femdom Art?

I like FemDom art which is geared to the woman, her enjoyment and her feelings. Most FemDom art has a woman watching, on the sidelines or she is performing an act of abuse. In neither of these situations is it really about her and what she wants.

I don’t like the extreme stuff because it doesn’t seem real. Extremes seem geared to his fantasies, not hers. She isn’t really getting anything from what’s going on but it’s all set up for pleasing him. Like a little kid who wants his Mother to watch him play. It’s nice for the kid but kind of boring for the Mother (unless she brings a good book).

I like her to be dressed in ordinary clothes, not fetish costumes with ridiculous high heels she can hardly walk in. Corsets which force her to stand rather than be comfortable. Boots so high she can’t bend her legs. Skirts short enough to show her butt. If she is scantily dressed I don’t feel she is really in charge. It’s all a performance for him. I don’t identify with women dressed up like automations.

I like her to be with a man equal to herself in looks and proportions.  I prefer him to be muscular, strong looking and not sissy or down-trodden. I don’t mind if his expression is a little peeved or disgruntled. I don’t like the adoring look, the overly trusting or begging and needy. It looks sexier if I really feel this was all her idea and he really is at her mercy, being tormented and teased as she likes.

Having said that, I don’t the man to see the victim in the photo or the story. He should be there because he wants this. He may not want or like the torment he endures in the moment, but overall this is what he wants.  The “poor little me” style of photos really annoys me.

I do like where there is some sign of care, sensuality and sexiness (not sex but the feeling of intimacy). A connection between the Domme and sub, a relationship being maintained, versus performance art.

For me the best FemDom art has humour (irony and sarcasm), not too sadistic, but the Domme/ FemDom should be having fun at his expense. I especially like the men in peril theme.

When I find something with just a man in a cage (for instance), his head down, his smooth muscular back the focus of the photo… that’s sexy to me. I can imagine the feel of his skin as I reach my hand through the bars of his cage. That’s the man I want to let out of his cage, tease for awhile more and then make love to.

Almost all BDSM art is produced for a male audience. Heterosexual dominant men are happy to see a lone female in bondage. A male top can imagine that he put her there.

Submissive and masochistic straight guys want to see the female top. A mere male in bondage would bore them. (It wouldn’t me.) An artist works either for the paying customers (so few, I know) and himself.

Source: What Would Women Like in Femdom Art? – Femdom Artists

Keep the Little Man Guessing

Most masks for women are lace confections which hide nothing.  I think that spoils the fun. Wear a mask which hides your face, your expressions and emotions. This mask is nice because it leaves nothing but a smile. You could be thinking, plotting, anything… Let him wonder and worry just a little. A mask is a very nice way to tease and torment your little man.maskSource: Amazon.com – Japanese Anime Black Bullet kagetane hiruko Cosplay Prop Mask Costume-made –