Change things around and bring him flowers, chocolates and a sincerely meant compliment. If you can bake make him a cake, a pie or cookies, homemade may not be perfect but it’s far more intimate/ personal than something from a bakery.
Stop suggesting changes to his wardrobe and bring him flowers in bright colours instead. Later you can try a shirt or tie, inspired by the colours he liked in the flowers. Or, not, really how terrible is it that he dresses himself, even if you don’t approve of some of his choices. Keep in mind that he wants to look good, he just doesn’t want to be told to change.
A compliment will work much better. Tell him when he’s looking good. Tell him he’s having a great hair day. Tell him those pants look great on him, that shirt brings out the colour of his eyes and he looks so polished and professional when he wears that suit.
People like positive feedback, which is what compliments are. No one is going to accuse you of nagging when you give a sincere compliment to them. (Don’t try turning negative feedback into a compliment – that’s just mean and phoney).
Complimenting men is fun, once you get started. Compliment random men. The guy who held the elevator or the door for you. Smile when you say “thanks” and actually look at him too. Such a small thing can really make a difference in someone’s day, for both of you.
Being pleasant never goes out of style.
Guys love compliments
‘As men, we crave compliments. Nothing will make us happier then to be told we look good, smell good, etc. This is why… we men tend to compliment women too much sometimes. We sometimes over use the golden rule, we treat women as we want to be treated.
‘I have worked with some pretty attractive men who would get hit on often which was nothing for them but the second someone actually complimented them they lit up like a god damn gorgeous Christmas tree.’ – Betamaletim
Quote from a post at Marie Claire.
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Black and white, silky and sensual for use as a blindfold with your submissive. Not too pretty for a man.
A lovely soft satin vintage-inspired sleepmask in a light silvery violet with flourishes of brocade-like dark violet flowers. Bordered by black
Source: Satin Bella Adjustable sleep mask Marielle by lovemesugar
Yoshie Gown – Alluring, intricate French floral nude embroidery, decorated in clusters of solid pink and skeletal black flowers, sits over open net tulle, both veiling and revealing in equal measure. The ‘70s style babydoll gown has embroidered cups with an under-bust seam to hold and support. The puff sleeves feature silk-bound keyholes that fasten with a black tassel button, while the gown fastens at the centre front with black rouleaux and two further black tassel buttons.
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I think I have this teacup and saucer. If it weren’t so late in the evening I’d go look for it in the china cupboard. Found on eBay.
- I’m giving you a massage tonight.
- Just thinking about how gorgeous you are.
- I. Love. You.
- I want to kiss you all over.
- I’m picking you up after work.
- The rest of the evening is a surprise.
- What I would give to be holding you right now.
- You’re incredible. In case I haven’t told you that lately.
- I’m still thinking about how radiant you looked this morning.
- You are the sexiest woman I’ve ever known.
- I adore you.
I know you can do better than my list and I want to help all the hapless men out there whose idea of a sexy text is: “What r u up 2? LOL.”
via Dear Men, Here Are 10 Texts You Can Send the Woman in Your Life Right Now to Make Her Day – xoJane.
Why does romance have to be dead? I can remember being at work and imagining I had someone who would send me a note like this. That was before mobile phones so, of course, my note would have been delivered along with flowers (or in person).
On the other hand… I was a client in an office when a full bouquet of flowers were delivered to one of the men there. They were from his girlfriend, not for any special reason. I’ve never forgotten how touched he was, even a little emotional.
So, romance is not dead and romance is not just for men or women to be the givers. Anyone in love can instigate some romance. For no special reason at all. Just show them they are special – that’s the reason.