Labels in BDSM: 30 Days of Dominance

Day 1 – Does your Dominance – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your preferred Dominant style as Taken in Hand, Domestic Discipline, Top/bottom, Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

Labels can work as a general description. A label can communication to someone else much easier than trying to pin point and cover every nuance and detail of what you are doing and why you do it.

A label can confine, limit and set you up with a lot of standards and expectations – if you deal with people who care about belonging to a group or niche within that label. Trying to keep the group “pure” so they can have their club means they have to set rules to keep people out. Everyone can’t belong to the group/ niche. This is where labels become too important and strict.

I prefer a label as just a general description. I do understand the group mentality, but I like to adapt, evolve and generally have the space to do things as I choose. Group acceptance comes to those who confidently set the fashions. After all, every group needs leaders.

I like Domestic Discipline, owner/ pet and a merge of styles. I also like to come up with my own ideas. Someone might take the time to label and categorize them. That seems less important to me.

Sexy Monster: Mandragora

The Witches of East End series didn’t make it for a third season. I liked the show. But the mandragora will be far more memorable.

The mandragora love scene in the forest was more than I expected from TV sex. The Mandragora has a tail and he knows how to use it! The hottest thing for me was that tail touching her and then slipping under her skirt to continue touching her, intimately. Tentacles are a turn on… tails too in this case.

Witches of East End: Mandragora

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It turns out mandragora is not something entirely made up for the Witches of East End. Mandragoras have a history. But, to make things simple and focus on the sexy mandragora from the show I’ve made a list of what made the monster for this show.

So what is a Mandragora?

  • lives in woods and forests
  • has the ability to cloak itself in order to avoid detection
  • can appear and disappear in a swirl of vines
  • can alter the memories of its victims
  • feeds on sexual energy of their chosen mate
  • mate is put into a trance and called to them
  • possessive and protective of mate
  • green/ blue body of a man, composed of scales but appears to be plant based
  • long, flexible tail seems to be used for seduction mainly
  • blue tentacles come from it’s back in order to feed or attack
  • tentacles inject Dracos Sanguinum (Dragons Blood) into victim’s brain

For those who want more…

mandrakespirit

“The spirit of mandrake is known as Mandragora and has a twin known as Mandragoro. The mandrake is the only traditional plant of Witchcraft that possesses two distinct spirits and appears in the form [of] a female or male human with plant features. The mandrake spirit serves to link humankind with plant-kind and is therefore a magical bridge to the Greenwood Realm and the space of Shadow from which all mysteries flow. In legend, the mandrake is known as the Sorcerer’s Root and connects its possessor with the Old Magic.”

– Raven Grimassi

Rules for a Fighting Slave of Gor

A really well behaved man (even without the chains) is kind of sexy.

Fighting Slave Rule 1: Fighting slave’s shall ask for entry into Kasra in the fllowing or similar manner: “Drawing to His knees, the fighting slave faces the place where the Homestone lays.Raising well muscled arms high in salute, before placing his palms flat to the tiles… fingers widely splayed, His deep masculine voice rings out…may (name of fighting slave) enter the city of Kasra?”

Fighting Slave Rule 2: Fighting Slave’s shall Greet in the following fashion: To the Khan and their Master / Misress a fighting Slave shall Greet in this Fashion – to the Khan – “Tal, Khan and Master. (and any additional greetings as appropriate)” – to their Master / Mistress “Tal, my Master / Mistress, (and any additional greetings as appropriate)”
To all Free fighting slave’s shall Greet in this way – “Greetings Master / Mistress {Name}, (and any additional greetings as appropriate)”

Fighting Slave Rule 3: After being granted entry into Kasra, fighting slave’s shall greet in this order: The Khan, The Ubara, First Sword, Second Sword, your Master / Mistress, all Free Men of Kasra, All Free Women of Kasra, all Free Visitor’s / Guest’s (Master’s, then Mistresses), any you are unsure of regardless of sex, and then slaves, who are always greeted last, and may be greeted as a group.

Fighting Slave’s do not use third person greeting’s, a fighting slave’s greeting should look something like this – “Greetings Master {Name} I hope this day has been good for you?” Fighting slave’s shall also bow, slightly, to the Free they are Greeting before Greeting them.

A fighting slave’s Greetings to the Khan shall be, when they see the Khan enter they will stand and bow towards him at the waist, they shall then Greet the Khan.

Fighting Slave Rule 4: Fighting slave’s sit on the bench’s that line the wall behind the slave fur’s. They do not sit on the slave fur’s.

Fighting Slave Rule 5: Fighting slave’s, when either greeting or speaking to the Free are not required to look at the feet of the Free they are speaking to. They are to look at their chest, face or eye’s, though eye contact is not to be maintained for prolonged period’s of time.

Fighting Slave Rule 6: The ko’lar’s of fighting slave’s of Kasra, be they owned by the City or by a Citizen of Kasra, are steel ko’lar’s. These ko’lar’s are a rounded steel ko’lar with a flat inner surface, they are thick and approximately 2″ wide for male’s, 1″ to 1/2″ wide for female’s. These ko’lar’s are plain with only the name of the fighting slave’s owner, deeply engraved into the left side in both Taharic and Gorean Print Script, and, deeply inscribed on the right side in both Taharic and Gorean Print Script the name of the fighting slave. No Leash Ring is attached to this ko’lar.

Fighting Slave Rule 7: Fighting slave’s of Kasra shall wear the following clothing only except in the Arena. a) A Sleeveless black leather tunic; b) A pair of pant’s made of rep-cloth dyed either dark brown or tan; c) Ankle Sandal’s; d) a pair of short dark brown leather bracer’s and e) Either a dark brown leather headband or a cap of rep-cloth worn on the back of the head, may be dark brown, black or white.

Fighting Slave Rule 8: Fighting slave’s in Kasra are NOT ka’jirus, they are fighting slave’s. In kasra a ka’jirus is a male pleasure slave. A fighting slave is NOT a pleasure slave, he or she is a slave whose only service is to fight in The Gladiatorial Arena of Kasra. As such, fighting slave’s do not ‘serve.’

Fighting Slave Rule 9: Fighting slave’s only contact with the ka’jira of Kasra is in the Main Room of Kasra and in IM’s. Fighting slave’s are NEVER allowed physical contact with the ka’jira of Kasra, under any circumstances.Under no circumstance’s will sexual conduct, of any kind between a fighting slave and a ka’jira will ever be allowed or tolerated. Defiance of this Rule willcost you your life.
In time, as Kasra grow’s, provision’s will be made for fighting slave’s to have access and use of female slave’s. You will be told when that time has come and how it will work. Until then, you shall do without.

Fighting Slave Rule 10: Fighting slave you are, and that makes you different, but slave you are, and slave you will be. Do not forget your place, fighting slave. Never forget, obedience is your life.

Fighting Slave Rule 11: A Master is, by definition, always right. They are therefore never Wrong. This Law applies to all Free Persons. Slaves always have the last word in any disagreement..”Yes, Master.”

Fighting Slave Rule 12: All of the Free shall be addressed as ‘Master’ or ‘Mistress’. If you are unable to determine the gender of the Free Person, you shall use ‘Master’ until such time as their gender can be determined.

Fighting Slave Rule 13: Contradiction of a Master shall never be tolerated. You are never permitted to argue with or contradict a Master.

Fighting Slave Rule 14: Always remember your place in Gor. Never forget it.

Source: http://www.angelfire.com/alt2/city_of_kasra/rulesforfightingslves.htm

The Astrology of Kink

The Astrology of Kink: The Sagittarius Adventure

Sagittarius is represented by the Centaur, half-human, half-horse. Ever visit a stud farm during breeding season? Equines who are otherwise decent-enough working animals are insane with the urge to breed; the only thing standing between the animals’ urges and utter rutting chaos is the intervention of human handlers.

It’s lucky for the rest of us, then, that Sagittarius has its human handler built in — if they’ll stoop to obeying him or her, that is. The sex drive is strong, impulsive, and somewhat conquest-oriented, and some Centaurs end up with more notches on their bedposts than Virgo has little pills.

Sagittarius has the ability to easily separate sex from emotion. Security and intimacy are important to Sagittarius, but are not necessarily linked to their fiery physical drives. Spontaneous sexual adventures and one-night stands are usually guilt-free; Sagittarians hate restrictions of all kinds, and the occasional bout of unrestrained sexual freedom can be deeply satisfying in a way that other signs might not readily understand.

Sagittarians also make fantastic sex workers, especially if the job calls for live action on demand. They’re not necessarily the show-offs of the sex industry, but practicality and physical vigor more than make up for any lack of showmanship.

This is a mutable sign, and its ruler Jupiter lends a cavalier streak — Sagittarius will try anything once. They’re not fond of labels (labels equal limits) but will sometimes compromise outwardly in order to maintain security at home. Hence, you find a large number of naturally pansexual Sagittarians maintaining the appearance of a monosexual relationship, while dallying elsewhere with members of both sexes. They’re also attracted to the idea of open relationships, but, like their opposing sign Gemini, sometimes find even open agreements tough to keep; restrictions are restrictions, after all, no matter how generous!

Oddly enough, Sagittarius tends to pick up specific fetishes more readily than any other sign except for Virgo. Stocking fetishes, latex fetishes, more esoteric fetishes like pony play or other role-specific “musts” … you name it, a Sagittarius will adopt it, at least for a little while. The difference between Virgo and Sagittarius is persistence; a Centaur’s fetishistic interests tend to fade abruptly. This sign explores things thoroughly, yes, but then moves on to the next unexplored sexual arena with little warning and even less regret.

Both Mars and Venus in Sagittarius are equally prone to this adventurous outlook on sex. The Sagittarian Sun shares it, too, but most Centaur Suns tend to settle down eventually, and turn their expansive urges toward less physical conquests. No Sagittarian can tolerate excessive restrictions, though, no matter how settled they seem. Confinement is always uncomfortable, and when the horizon of possibilities begins shrinking around them, it’s only a matter of time before they react, with all the desperation of a claustrophobic mustang in a broom closet.

If you’re the kind of person who values spontaneity, adventure and fiery independence over certain security, you’ll love Sagittarius. Give them plenty of room to explore all the fascinating experiences life has to offer, and you’ll have a lover who is affectionate, playful and vital. Try to fence them in, and all you’ll have is an empty paddock. Think you can handle this free spirit? If you can, it’ll be the ride of a lifetime.

Source: The Astrology of Kink: The Sagittarius Adventure — Sasstrology.com

Introduction to Light Bondage

How to Dom with Light Bondage

  • Restraints
  • Sensual Deprivation
  • Discipline
  • Safety

Restraints

Restraints are rope, cuffs, etc. Start with something you can easily work with, safely. You want your submissive to be able to get out of the bondage quickly if things suddenly become too intense. Also, you don’t want to start out making a lot of fancy knots then discover you can’t get them all undone again. Any restraint used must be tested before you start using it as bondage.

Restraints don’t have to be physical. Mental bondage is a lovely thing and great for beginners. You have the power to control your submissive – knowing his bondage is not enforced by anything but his own decision to obey. There is more power in a submissive obedient by choice rather than ropes, chains, leather, etc.

Sensual Deprivation

Sensual deprivation is an element of bondage. Blindfolds are less complicated than some methods which include a full hood over the head. Also, a blindfold is simple for beginners to use and experiment with. Don’t take away more than one of the five senses at a time (for a beginner in bondage). Keep it fun rather than making them go from nervous and uncertain to actually being afraid.

Think of sensual deprivation as the element of surprise. Use it to tease and give your submissive less control. Build suspense and anticipation. While using a blindfold, narrate everything you are doing or plan to do. While they are in restraints you have taken away their ability to use their hands. A blindfold limits what they can see so they strain a little to use the senses they have left. Make sure you use as many senses as you can when you deprive them of one, or more.

Discipline

Discipline includes spanking but is not limited to just that. Discipline can be a punishment. Discipline can be a set of rules or standards to be kept by the submissive. There is a lot you can do with discipline as mental and physical bondage.

You may have heard of domestic discipline. Spanking is usually included with this. The submissive is treated like a child or dog being trained. They are expected to perform tasks, mainly house cleaning. They may be expected to wear aprons.

The Gor books by John Norman inspired another branch of kinkiness which follows a strict discipline and set or orders. Lesser known are the books by Sharon Green who wrote a female Dom series set on other planets involving men and women being taken from Earth. I especially like her books myself.

Safety

Safety matters. I’m not making it first on my list but it should always be part of your considerations and planning. Anything you bring into play during your bondage should be tested out and practiced with. You don’t want to struggle with toys, tools or feel incompetent in the heat of the moment when you are both wound up.

Safety includes some time afterwards, to wind down, get feedback and care for your submissive: aftercare. Don’t skip aftercare. This time is good for the submissive to feel cared for, literally. The Dom also needs this time to wind down, release emotions and reconnect with their partner.

Is Gender Retroactive?

Us Magazine posted this photo along with a description using the female pronoun. If gender is retroactive this way… was the gold medal won by a woman in 1976, not a man?

Think of all the places this photo has appeared over the years, especially sports magazines. This was a victory for men (genderally) is that being taken away from them now that Bruce Jenner is Caitlyn Jenner?

I think it’s an interesting side issue. 

Caitlyn Jenner, formerly Bruce Jenner, reintroduced herself with a gorgeous Vanity Fair July cover in June 2015 — see photos of the reality star and former Olympic athlete through the years!

Source: July 1976 Photo – Caitlyn Jenner Through the Years – Us Weekly

Category Tweaking on Gracie’s Site

You may not suspect this about Dom women but… we like to have fun. Personally, I like to be contrary, cause a bit of mischief and see if I can get away with it.

Ordinarily I’m very honest, open and fairly old fashioned. People mistake me for the nice girl type, but it’s easy to see how that happens. I seldom cause mischief after all. But… its only that much more fun when I do.

Gracie may not even mind about the category description. She may never notice it even, or not for a really long time. Unless she reads about it here…

Don’t be a snitch!

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via Darla’s Boudoir | Sex~Kitten.net.