Nothing is Really a Crime

I feel that nothing is really a crime in Canada (North America, most of the world).

Murder… how many people do you have to kill before the police/ government really stop you from killing more? Even then, how long before you are able to continue on murdering people again. In between (if you don’t get away with it on technicalities, etc.) you can still enjoy life. Three meals a day, feel the sunshine on your face, all those things dead people can’t do.

Sexual misconduct with animals or children or adults, the same story as murder. It might make the newspapers, you might become famous. Your life isn’t over. Sex offenders don’t really take any of it seriously, they don’t stop.  No one really tries to stop them. Only temporarily. More effort is put into marketing them, making them celebrities, not criminals.

People who suffer from the actions of murderers and sexual deviants are left to recover, maybe, eventually.  Deal with your loss and know you and everyone else are unprotected by your government or police for the next situation. Sadly, these feelings can lead to victims becoming perpetrators of violence.

Theft certainly isn’t a crime any longer. Police are not even called in most instances. Stealing is not important enough for the police/ government to feel they need to be involved, or put in much effort. Thieves are far more likely to suffer no consequences at all. Businesses just pay more for insurance if they try to recover their losses.

Anything else? Lesser actions against your fellow individuals are fairly unmentionable. Although it is worth noting that some actions (speaking against popular opinions) are treated as worse than murder by our society and then (sometimes) get more attention from the government/ police/ lawyers.

As a person living in Canada, in this day and age, nothing seems to really be a crime any longer. The government is not preventing crimes, just pushing them to the side, letting them happen, or temporarily stopping them. Crimes are allowed to continue being performed by the same individual for their entire lifetime.

Criminals (f we pretend the title fits) have nothing to fear from us. We, however, have a great deal to fear. Even the criminals must fear each other to some extent though. Only the biggest, scariest, craziest of them could really feel safe or not vulnerable and even then… there are guns readily available. Guns which can be used from a distance, anonymously. Anyone can get and use a gun. The government won’t stop you. No wonder they have become something of a problem in some places. But, owning a gun does not make anyone safe.

We would be safer if criminals were acknowledged as criminals, and dealt with, permanently and deliberately. But, that hasn’t really happened since the 1970’s (I think that was when the death penalty was eliminated).  Without a permanent, reliable method to deal with crimes, why think of them as crimes and criminals? If the government does nothing to stop crimes and criminals why do we still think of them as crimes or criminals?

Is that unfair, judgemental? If our society allows people to continue murdering, violating, molesting, stealing, etc. why do we think of the people involved in these things as bad, or wrong? Are we not allowing them to continue their actions? Are we not even encouraging it with publicity, marketing and caring/ providing for them?

Odd that we euthanize animals for just existing, being aggressive, being too plentiful, surviving or defending themselves. Are animals criminals? That’s something to consider.

Defeat the Marketing of Sex

Could it be that women who lose their interest in sex are just as normal as men who also have less interest in sex?

Could it be that most people are sold sex, promoted by the media/ marketing in order to make a lot of money?

Is it all a case of preying on the consumer by making them think they all need to have a lot of sex, and really white teeth?

This leads me to question sex with penetration. I have read that most women do not have an orgasm from sexual penetration. I can add myself to that list. I am old fashioned enough to think sex is about making babies. The sex I see on TV shows, movies and the Internet is not romantic. Even with all the added drama of rushing it and things crashing to the floor… it looks boring to me. “It was just sex”… and yeah, it really was just sex. There wasn’t time or interest to have more to it. Crash, bang, thank you Ma’am.

What is sex like without penetration? Take away concerns about baby making, sexual diseases and… do you have anything left? I hope so! If not, what the heck are you doing?!

If people went back to enjoying sex instead of making it a ‘bodily function’ they would find romance, caring, maybe even… the love in love making. Stop making sex a performance – trying actually being intimate instead. Have sex with someone you want to see again and don’t rush into it.

Defeat the media and the marketers and take sex back. Make it personal, intimate and loving again. Chances are sex will be a lot more desirable that way, for men and women.

Quote below via – For Some Men, Erectile Dysfunction Is Totally Chill

Recent research by Emily Wentzell, an associate professor of anthropology at the University of Iowa, examines the way that erectile dysfunction’s (ED) designation as a medical problem is a consequence of culture and profit-motivated industries. “Ideas about what counts as good and manly sex are cultural, not natural or universal,” Wentzell explains in an interview with Broadly. “There is money to be made off promoting the idea that manly men should have life-long penetrative sex, by selling pharmaceuticals—hence the widespread marketing of ED drugs.”

There are many different justifications given for erectile dysfunction. Today, these range from deeming it a behavioral-based issue to a psychological problem to something purely biomedical. But there are older accounts. Ages ago, Wentzell explains, it was surmised that witchcraft could account for limp dicks. Modern interpretations on the so-called problem, Wentzell says, have been motivated by industries with financial interests.

Whatever Happened to Fluffy Bunny Domination?

This afternoon I’ve been looking for Fluffy Bunny Domination/ Domina. Every link I find points to the fluffyart.com domain but… there is nothing there. Just a blank, white screen. I did find a private Twitter account, which may or may not be active. I did find an old DeviantArt account which had more of her art. But, Blogger and Tumblr accounts are wiped clean. There is a CafePress shop, but not much available there.

Maybe she got discouraged about marketing/ money, or life changed or she just lost interest… the world may never know.

Too bad because her fluffy humour is great and seldom found in FemDom art.

Just found:

Find me on Fetlife as GleefullyMacabre.

when I checked the fluffyart domain with the Wayback Machine. Not much there other than that note and the banner from 2012.

Gracie’s Questions

From Gracie on SK: Should you wish to participate, here are my relatively random questions:

Whipped cream in a can, non-dairy topping in a tub, or ala mode? (And, yeah, we’re talking sex play here, not a topping on the kind of pie you’d get at a diner.) Elaborate. *wink*

To be honest I cringe at the idea of sticky stuff on my skin in that way. So I’d be none of the above. But, if he were to pester me about it, he would be the one wearing the ice cream.

So, you’re a sex blogger, or at least a blogger not afraid to be here and respond to such questions… If you’re in a serious or committed relationship, which came first: the blog or your relationship? If you’re not in a serious relationship, one day you might be; when and how do you fancy divulging your blogging vice?

I’m not in a committed relationship. I tend to tell all – I’m pretty horrible at keeping secrets. So, I’d already have him reading my blog by the time things got in a committed way.

Would you rather be a superhero or a villain? Why?

A villain by far. I’m already known for being “the nice one” among family and friends. Do you know how limiting that is? Yes, I am nice, I respect others, I help others… and so on. But, if I could let go of all that I would LOVE to be the villain. Likely that’s what a lot of the attraction of being Dom is. I can feel like I’m dangerous, or at least not so nice.

What’s worse: marketing your blog or marketers contact you for freebie posts at your site?

I don’t mind marketing my site so much. I do things my own way. I read what others say we should do and then I decide to take them seriously or not. People asking for freebies gets annoying because they don’t show any care or respect for what I’m doing. They offer junk, irrelevant junk, mindless and meaningless praise and they even try spinning it all by telling me what a great favour they are doing me – letting me have free content for my site.

What’s the worst/rudest/nosiest question you’ve ever been asked that you refused to blog about? And will you answer it now? *wink*

I have no idea. I usually answer any question. Even something kind of shocking at first will get me thinking and next thing, I’ve written a whole answer inside my head (if not in the blog too). 

Source: In Which Am Tagged & I Grudgingly Respond | Sex~Kitten.net

Beach Body Ready?

A Change.org petition launched by Charlotte Baring of East Sussex asking for the ads to be removed already has more than 35,000 signatures. The Advertising Standards Authority is assessing the campaign after receiving 33 complaints, the London Evening Standard reported.

Protein World, has denied accusations of sexism. “It is a shame that in 2015 there are still a minority who aren’t focusing on celebrating those who aspire to be healthier, fitter and stronger,” a spokesperson told the London Evening Standard. Protein World did not immediately respond to HuffPost’s request for comment.

Source: When Subway Ads Asked These Women If They Were ‘Beach Body Ready,’ They Responded Perfectly

Dear Protein World,

Isn’t it a shame there are still businesses marketing diet and other quick fix solutions to people as a method to become healthy, fit and strong? Who would do something like that? Likely the same business which would use a blonde model in a bikini as an example for all people.

People are protesting this ad as sexist but missing the fact it is also ageist and racist.

If this is how I should look in order to be healthy, fit and strong then taking some protein shakes, pills or whatever, won’t be enough to get me “beach ready”, ever.

Take a Look at Quora

You may not have been online when the newsgroups flourished. These days you can find them as Google Groups. Thank you to Google for saving and archiving them when they could have been lost.

quoraI have found a site which reminds me of the newsgroup days. Quora is intended as a question and answer site but as I was looking around I had the feeling of being back in the newsgroups. You never know who you would see: foreign looking names,  everyday people, big names, important people and all of them interesting in one way or another. It’s a place you can find the people you don’t find when you’re on Twitter and Facebook and so on. Quora is still unspoiled by web marketing.

There isn’t a lot of adult content there and of course I did look for it. I did find two in the theme of this site. I found over a hundred to suit my other interests like history and science fiction and art. But, for this site I’m just listing the links for BDSM , Bondage, Dominatrix and FemDom. Take a look and post a question. No promises on getting an answer at all but don’t expect immediate replies. It’s a forum, people come and go and login here and there. Be on your good behaviour, don’t spam and don’t nag about not getting a reply within the hour (or even that week). Most questions get replies but it is all wonderfully random and unexpected.

I also found a link to a BDSM community on Reddit.

Automated Customer Service

It’s weird to me that the more they automate customer service, so you don’t actually contact a real person, the more feedback they want from you about their customer service.  What do you say on these customer service surveys?

Yes, your email got here. It didn’t actually answer my question/ problem but thanks for taking the half second to send your automated response and masses of sales/ marketing spiel. Pat your computer on the back for job half assed done.

No doubt you have now added my email address to your marketing campaign. How delightful. I will give you the same consideration and courtesy as you have shown me and quickly add everything you email me to my garbage email for auto delete.

Applying to Lifehacker

I’m Laura. ASCII artist, stick figure cartoonist, urban and rural explorer of abandoned places – these are a few of the things I am doing when I’m not writing. I began as a web writer in 1998 but I started online in 1996, an IRC diva. I think I am a great fit for Lifehacker because I have experience, stamina (I was an editor at Dmoz over ten years), creativity, originality and inspiration. I’ve also been a copy editor and forum moderator so I can write and self edit my work quite well. I love finding new things online: new gadgets, new sites, new ways to use what we already have. I’m not the most organized person so I look for anything to help me with that.Some things work and some don’t but I try them. Once a year I reformat my hard drive to make sure I’m not left with any nasty critters from my experimentation. I’m teaching my Mother to use the computer. It takes patience, a lot of simple words, straight forward answers and I’m usually repeating the same things over a few times before she actually listens but we are making progress. I’m Sagittarius, I just feel the need to teach the world.

WordGrrls (http://wordgrrls.com) is my site for web writers. Originally I used it to stash content I had written for BackWash, WZard.com, HerPlanet, LockerGnome, BellaOnline and Suite101. On WordGrrls I post (daily) creative writing prompts, writing inspiration, web publishing ideas and generally my point of view about anything to do with keeping a space for yourself on the web. There is a flood of information for SEO and marketing your blog but the writing itself is being put on the backburner. I bring the writing back into the lime light. I love writing and even making lists of topics to write about. A bit crazy. Currently I am working through a mild addiction to WordPress plugins. I have found several I like for odds and ends but I’ve yet to find just what I want for displaying a featured past post.

I’m located in Barrie, Ontario, Canada. Not the US but I was once married to an American and spent a few years living in Illinois, does that count?

Right now I am not employed, trying the work from home plan but still mostly just unemployed. I have a lot of availability. Usually I am online in the evening when it is quiet and dark and I can pretend I’m far more mysterious than I really am.

Effective Advertising for Canadians


There’s a pretty effective ad. I came across this ad on the site for the York Region newspaper. Someone had sent me a link to follow to a story they had printed. Anyway, I was struck by that ad with the maple leaf falling down. I even went to the site for the Nature Conservancy.

BarCamp

BarCamp: Found on That Canadian Girl.

Wikipedia’s description is “BarCamp is an international network of user generated conferences — open, participatory workshop-events, whose content is provided by participants — often focusing on early-stage web applications, and related open source technologies, social protocols, and open data formats.”

See the site: BarCamp for local events. I could only find a couple near me and neither were really interesting as both are about marketing. But I think the idea is fabulous. Maybe I can set up something myself and see what kind of interest it stirs up. Not for a bit, too much on the to-do list right now.