Public Nudity is Now Promoted?

Isn’t this public nudity? I thought there were laws about that in the US, North America? This is proof of the level of obsession with sexuality. Trump will have his 4 – 8 years. But, what does it say about us (the people) that this was created, displayed in public and has been saved for further public display elsewhere?

It’s not about Trump, for me. It’s about the fact that with all of this, people are only talking about Trump. That’s pretty screwed up.

A little more irony? This was posted to a site with (Not Safe For Work) in the headline. But, the fact is, there was no fig leaf on this when it was displayed in a public street. Not safe for work? At this point, does that really mean anything?

What are the standards for public nudity, sex and sexuality now? Are we just waiting for the government and legal system to catch up with an “anything goes”policy? Or, are we leaving it to them to set the guidelines and uphold some kind of standards?

If this doesn’t leave you a little confused about what our standards for public nudity are, why not?

No One Actually Gets Flashing Right Any More

flashing girl

This photo came from a site with photos of women flashing for the camera. Out of all the photos I looked at on the main site, this is the only one which actually looked like flashing. (The expression on her face is great too. She looks happy and excited, about to flash out a boob).

Flashing should be quick and impulsive.

It should not take several minutes while she poses and does a strip tease. That is not a flash. It should not be a movie version with extra fetishes thrown in. A real flash is quick fun and flirty.

I’m not keen on seeing men flashing. It’s not so cute and fun then. But, I don’t really want to catch women flashing in public either. Anything sensual, kinky or fetish in nature should not be done in public because you can’t assume the consent of the general public. So don’t over expose yourself in that way either.

How to Become a Flashing Flirt

Try it when you’re just alone.

Next time you have time alone take a shower, give yourself some pampering and then leave the bathroom without a towel. Make the walk out of the bathroom, naked. See how that feels. It’s a safe way to get started and you don’t even have to look at yourself in the mirror if you don’t want to.

Take a nude selfie.

Don’t send it to anyone but imagine someone (someone charming and sexy) and take the photo for him/ her. Pose. Get arty and draw on your skin. Do a peep show if you don’t want to show all. If you get inspired to send the photo, take a break and leave it for the next day. Make sure you have no regrets.

If you’ve gone this far try actually flashing.

Be nude under a full length coat, dressing gown, something concealing which opens easily and quickly. Stand at a window, indoors. Not one where you know people will be watching, but a a view which takes a risk of being caught. Then, quickly open and close your coat. Don’t make it slow, don’t make sure someone has seen you and, no repeats.

Flashing is Flirting

Stick to the flash, don’t give them more than that. It’s the boldness of the flash which keeps it fun. It’s a quick risk for people who don’t want to expose themselves but enjoy that daring impulse to do something a bit naughty or taboo. You may get tempted to go to the next level and become a streaker. Don’t, unless you’re really sure you can face seeing that much of yourself exposed the next day and the next and when ever someone puts it up on YouTube.

Animal Versus Human Nudity

Why is it ok for a dog to display it’s genitals but a human male in the same pose would be labeled as adult content, pornographic, shocking, disgusting, etc.? The image below was on Buzzfeed, a post about taking naps.

animal and human nudity

Not a sexual topic, not even about animals especially. It was just an image they used to illustrate taking a nap. The dog’s cock and balls are plainly visible, not blacked out or otherwise edited out. No warning about nudity for under age readers on the site. Weird really isn’t it?

I don’t think the photo was sexual or should have been edited out. The comparison just interests me. If a nude adult human male were posed the same way… it never would have been used, at all. Why is animal nudity ok but human nudity shocks us?

What is Nudity?

Nudity in art.I write for HubPages. One thing which I find interesting there is he concept of adult content. When I posted text art (ASCII art) of nude women the post was quickly flagged and pulled. Which meant someone had reported it, or staff themselves had flagged it to be changed. The reason was nudity.

I can understand. Standards are standards. The concept of what is and what is not adult content is a fine line and dependent on the viewer. In the case of a site it is the web writer/ producer who decides where the line falls.

However, it dos get annoying when the standards are not the same across the site. I found this post today, originally posted in 2011. It’s a longer post, far more written content than mine. Of course, mine was an art gallery rather than a discussion. Still, isn’t nudity nudity? How did this post escape the censors? Was it given preference because it’s longer, had more comments?

That doesn’t work for me. So, I flagged it. Let’s see what happens.

In the case of my own post, I took it off the site and loaded it here.

The Best Kept Secret of Figure Drawing: The Open Session.

How to Write a Great Adult Dating Profile

Note: This was originally publishing on HubPages but the site is run by a pack of Christian virgins apparently. Too much adult content! Thus it is removed and relocated here.

Be Honest About Yourself and What you Want

Don’t lie about anything.It’s much easier to meet someone you haven’t lied to.

Don’t lie about your weight, height, and personal appearance in general.

Don’t claim to love animals and children, if you don’t.

Don’t claim to be a non-smoker if you’re still trying to quit.

Really know what you want when it comes to a serious relationship or something quick and meaningless. Choose to place your ad on an adult dating site which suits your needs. Don’t look for one night stands on a site which focuses on making real connections, couples and long term romance.

Make sure you say what you want from a relationship upfront and look for others who do the same. Anyone who can’t give you specifics is not a good risk.

Decide on three things you must have in the person you are looking for. Sticking to three which are most important leaves you open to meeting people who might not fit the cookie cutter ideal you want but could turn out to be great, better than the ideal you have carried around in your imagination.

Make a list of thing most important things you want someone to know about yourself. Put them in order of importance and write about them in that order. When someone reads your profile they will get a sense of who you are and what is most important to you.

Explain and illustrate your points. Don’t write an essay but if you can show a little depth and knowledge about your interests you seem to be someone who really does care about whatever you are writing about AND you will be putting more effort into meeting someone and caring about communicating with them.

A Little Modesty Goes a Long Way

People will be more attracted and believe a profile which does not sound like a bragging loud mouth. Write about your achievements, your best features but don’t go overboard on selling them. Let them be found rather than broadcasting them.

People like discovering on their own rather than being led around and told what to think.

Write About Who you Really Are, Not Who you Think you Should Be

Don’t write a profile where you have no flaws. Write about yourself with flaws included. But, you don’t have to make yourself sound bad. If you’re working to quit smoking – say that. It’s always good to write about things you are working on changing for the better. But, even things you can’t change might fit right in with someone else who has flaws of their own.

Don’t claim interests and hobbies you haven’t ever done or haven’t done in years, unless you are honest about it. You can write about having an interest in sailing even if you only sailed once in your life. Just make it plain that you aren’t an expert (have only sailed once but loved it) and would like to find someone who shares your interest.

Start with a Great Opening Line

Just because your profile starts with the opening line doesn’ t mean you have to write it that way. Leave this for last, after you have written the rest of your profile and you have a feeling for the image of yourself you are giving and what you have already said about yourself.

Wrap up your good points and the basic information about your age, location and such in the opening line. Give people a reason to expect you are the person they want to find. But, don’t be boring about it. Think up an interesting way to introduce yourself.

“Busy 40ish photographer in Smalltown, Ontario looking for a woman with creative flair.”

Active, single Mom in Smalltown, Ontario looking for a single Dad jogging partner.”

Don’t Skip the Photo

When you post a photo don’t show nudity, don’t be underdressed, try for a casual everyday look. Dressing up in a suit and tie or cocktail dress is great. But, too much will make you seem insincere and phony. All flash on the surface, without real depth.

Don’t look directly into the camera for your profile photo. It can put people off cause you seem to be glaring or too intense. Smiling is a good thing too. The best profile photo is one where you look relaxed.

Spelling Counts!

Don’t post or leave your profile as finished and ready to go live until you have checked your spelling, punctuation and grammar. You may not be an English professor but you can use software to check your spelling. You can read your profile out loud and hear how it sounds. Does it make sense. Does it flow or seem kind of awkward. Fix it before you post it.

How to Decide if Someone is Sincere About Meeting

Can they verify they live in your area? Do they know about local places like restaurants and locations? Can they tell you anything someone couldn’t have found by looking at Google Maps?

Do they talk about themselves? Do they tell you enough to make you feel connected to a real person?

Do they ask questions about you? Do you feel they want to get to know you beyond the photo you provided on the dating site? Or, do they not ask you anything about who you are or seem to really want to find out how well you could match up together?

Are they willing to talk on the phone about getting together and making plans? Do they give you a phone number with a local area code?

Does their dating profile show real photos, of themselves? Does the photo match the text description on the site?

Do they go ahead and make plans and then show up? Or do they cancel or change their mind… Beware giving out second chances. You could be started in a relationship where you just get strung along.

Articles About Profile Writing

Topless Women: The Right to Bare Breasts

I write for HubPages but have gotten tired of their prudish attitude to do with anything sexual or adult. So I am removing posts which I had written there or planned to write there. I don’t need to listen to anyone’s ideals of what is too adult here.

It’s all good until someone pokes a nipple out.

 

In July this year (2012) it will be twenty one years since Gwen Jacob fought for the right to bare breasts for women in Ontario, Canada.

There are so many issues connected to such a simple thing as bare chests.

  1. Breastfeeding in public and the exposing of the female breast in a public place.
  2. Male and female equality.
  3. Old ideas of women’s breasts as being sinful, dirty rather than natural.
  4. Our own feelings of having or wanting to hide our breasts.
  5. Nudity in general. Naturism, the right to full nudity anywhere.
  6. Violence against women. You may not think this is relevant, but it is.
  7. Dress codes – there are places where no one should be bare chested.
  8. Sex workers who get paid to remove clothing as a career.
  9. Nudity in art.
  10. Sex sells and it’s almost always a woman being sold for sexy ads.
  11. Virginity and being a good girl versus a ‘slut’.
  12. Feminism and the whole bra wearing versus bra burning thing.
  13. The lingerie and fashion industry.
  14. Breast cancer – are you still topless if your breasts aren’t there?
  15. Exposing breasts as an attention getting tactic during protests.

Gwen Jacob in the News

  • Women’s topless court victory 20 years later – CBC News
    When university student Gwen Jacob removed her top to cool off on a sweltering summer day in July 1991, she unwittingly spearheaded a movement to give all women in Ontario the legal right to expose their breasts — though most still choose not to.

 Women Go Topless in Ontario

Gwen Jacob, 1992.

Public Exposure and Indecency

There is nothing in this post which a child could not read. I have not written anything pornographic or adult. I have not added an image even as I write this. Yet this post has been automatically blocked by HubPages – just for using the word breast and/ or topless.

Earlier this month I wanted to post nude ASCII art. But, even the hint of a breast in the post was too much to be acceptable. After trying to work with HubPages restrictions I removed the post (after a second re-edit) and posted the content to my own site instead. I was disappointed in HubPages. As a fairly old fashioned, romantic and traditional woman there was nothing in the post which I found overly adult, offensive or exposed.

Why are we so intimidated by a woman’s breasts? Are women’s breasts dirty? Are women’s breasts naughty and meant to sell cars, beer and pornographic magazines only?

I like my breasts. I will probably not expose them in public because the idea of showing more of myself than I have to is set deeply in my mind. I’m not young, slim and twenty any more. But, I admire those who follow up on the protest by taking off their shirt and going topless.

Topless, Cleavage and Barechested

National Cleavage Day

Wikipedia says women are Topless but men are Barechested:

Barechested most commonly refers to a male wearing no clothes above the waist, exposing much or all of the torso.[1] It is also known as “stripped to the waist” or “being shirtless”. The term topless is usually applied only to women.

Toplessness refers to the state in which the breasts, areolae, and nipples of a woman or post-pubescent girl are exposed, especially in a public venue or in a visual medium.

Why are women described as showing breasts, areolae and nipples. Men have the same biological parts but are only described as being unclothed above the waist. Are topless women only showing breasts but keeping the rest of their bodies covered? No. So, an interesting interpretation between men and women from Wikipedia, isn’t it.

The Right to Bare Breasts Outside of Ontario

Comments from the original post on HubPages. 

That Grrl 3 days ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

I like for men and women to cover up. But it should be voluntary, as you say Mike. I wish the young women would be as covered up as the men they are with. Young men wear shorts about knee length and T-shirts. I think it’s weird that young men are dressed well and the young women look like they forgot to put their clothes on.

Mike 4 days ago

I think it is attractive when a woman covers her breasts voluntarily because breasts would be boring if they were exposed all the time. Women are smart for doing this and I thank them.

That Grrl 7 weeks ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

Actually there is every way a male chest can be compared to a female chest. We have all the same parts. Women’s breasts just pop out in a different way. Men can have bigger chests or breasts too if they gain weight or lift weight to gain muscles.

The main issue is one of society and our cultural standards. I don’t especially support women going bare chested. But, I don’t support men taking off their shirts in public either. I don’t like the way young women dress with most of their curves hanging out of their clothing meanwhile the young men look over dressed by comparison.

I do think people should dress as they choose, within reason. I don’t think the human body is something which needs to be kept hidden, like a dirty secret. But, I don’t think we need to expose ourselves either. Clothing has a purpose beyond being decorative or keeping our butts from sticking to the seat or preventing a lot of insect bites, etc. There is nothing wrong with some modesty on the part of the clothes wearer or the people viewing other people.

It’s not a simple issue. I actually think it’s pretty complicated and very interesting.

katyzzz 7 weeks ago from Sydney, Australia

There’s no way a male chest can be compared with female breasts, we need to recognise that fact, personally I don’t want to expose my breasts for every Tom Dick and Harry but then again I don’t want to see female breasts either except for breast feeding, I think you present a minority view and a dress code for work for women is definitely due, from what I see going off to work each day, that way they will never get on, the men do dress appropriately on the whole and accept it. Equality