Nice Poppy Brooch

It’s an expensive brooch but doesn’t look it from this photo. But, the design is nice. I like the detail and it does look like the poppies we grow here in the garden. There are some wonderful colours in the garden poppies, in shades of pink, orange and red. Traditionally, it’s the red poppies for Remembrance Day, November 11th. Did you get a poppy for your lapel yet?

Source: PEACE POPPY 30mm gold plated brooch by Rodney: Amazon.ca: Jewelry

Dare to Be a Feminist

Scoop.it: Dare to be a Feminist

My friend, Deanna, writes about a lot of issues to do with women. When I read them, I feel passionate, angry, etc. But, I don’t write about women’s issues or feminism myself. I don’t curate a topic about it. I don’t even look for or read about it.

I don’t think Deanna has ever asked me why. Maybe she already knows, or assumes I’m just one more woman who goes along and doesn’t think about the issues, or especially care. Maybe she thinks I prefer not to know and just walk along, blindly ignoring everything but what’s right in front of me.

That isn’t it. The truth is I just don’t want to keep fighting. I’m not the fighting type. I’m about keeping the peace, finding ways to work things out and getting situations under control. Women are natural peace keepers they say and I believe that to be true.

I grew up as the oldest of four kids. I looked after the others and myself.  I did it pretty well for a kid. My Mother was there. But, she was more like a back up plan. She liked (still does) being busy, always cooking, cleaning or planting something. She was a good Mother but she wasn’t always so hands on. That was me. I learned to keep four kids together when we were out and I learned to keep four pretty different temperaments together when we were home. Situations came up where there were disagreements, problems, even a small house fire, and I handled them all.

I’ve never been particularly into news reading. A headline will catch my eye. I am far more likely to skim the first paragraph then read on to find out the details. If the first paragraph engages me I will skim farther along. I have to be pretty passionate about the topic to read the whole thing. Seems far more people are like me than ever before, when it comes to reading news and blogs.

So, I don’t find the issues important to women first. I read it all second hand.

Don’t assume I’ve had an ideal life, never affected by anything. I’ve been molested as a young teenager. My sister was raped and would have been murdered if someone hadn’t heard her scream and come to look. All sorts of situations and happenings in my life, not all of them about sexual assault. I stopped reading the news or listening to the news a few years ago because I just can’t deal with more violence against women and how deeply angry I feel. You can’t live your day to day life if you are consumed by deep seated anger.

I find it hard to be social, to keep friends. I can be friendly and social in short spurts. I do it really well. People usually like me. But, I’m not connected to anyone, really. I’m isolated and most of who I am likes it this way.

So I don’t keep up with women’s issues. Not because I don’t care. Not because I’m not affected. But, because I’m too affected and I just can’t live with all the anger. I have to keep living and I can’t spend my time fighting everything and everyone. I have enough to do just to fight myself. To keep myself from hiding away from the world.

If you ask me, I will say I’m a feminist. But, it may be that no one will agree with me, or believe me, because I’m not a fighter on the outside.

I’m in the 7%

 Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old. This is something we should all read at least once a week!

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Change the way you think.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. Release your children when they become adults, its their life now.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye

16. Take a deep breath It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22 Just because you believe you are right, doesn’t mean you are. Keep an open mind.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. Your job is to love your children, not choose who they should love.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield…

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

Its estimated 93% won’t forward this.

If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with the title “I’m in the 7%”. Friends are the family that we choose.

Your One Day of Self Indulgence?

Win some M&M’s from A Quad Mom Named Suz Tell her about your day of indulgence. What would you do if you could do anything and everything in the world, your one day of self indulgence?

This is my day of indulgence:

My day would start with a handsome and charming chauffeur coming to my door very early in the morning. I’d direct him to several places where there are abandoned farmhouses in the area. I’d take all the photos I could, until I was too cold to do any more and the light was fading. In between there would be stops for coffee and a nice lunch somewhere in some little town. I’d have a book to read over lunch, or chat up the chauffeur if he could carry a conversation. At the end of the day, when it was too dark for photos I’d go to the big bookstore for a latte and a book shopping. Then the chauffeur drives me to a nice motel so I can have a hot shower with delicious smelling body soap and shampoo. I spend the night reading snuggled up in bed. The beach is there in the morning, so even though my day is over I can zip out for an early morning of beach combing and sandcastle building before I have to get back to the real world and regular scheduled life.

I would have added more to that if I had thought about it first. Like shopping at the Body Shop for the most luxurious scented shampoo and soap for my shower at the motel. I really like showering at night, when the house is quiet and no one else is awake. It’s so quiet and I feel at peace for at least awhile.

You can also try for the M&Ms at Michelle Woo‘s blog.

What makes you melt?

I wrote:

My nephew’s real laugh. He’s 13 now, the start of so many changes and so much growing up. Though I haven’t had children of my own he is like my own son. I’ve helped raise him through my sister’s divorce and my own. He is a lovely boy turning into a young man and his laughs don’t come so easily as they did when he was a little boy. They are a treasure now and I melt when I think of all that has been and all that is yet ahead of him. I’m so glad to be someone he counts on and so glad to still be someone who can make him laugh and feel better when things are not always so easy in his life.

What’s Your Kind of Christmas Tree?


You Should Have a Blue Christmas Tree


For you, the holidays represent a time of calm, understanding, and peace.

You avoid family fights, and you don’t get too stressed out – even when things are crazy!

You like to make Christmas about making everyone’s life a little bit better.

You don’t get caught up in greed or commercialism. You’re too sincere for that.

Your blue tree would look great with: Lots of silver tinsel

You should spend Christmas Eve watching: It’s a Wonderful Life

What you should bake for Santa: Chocolate chip cookies

Another Get Rich Quick Scheme

You buy some weird, unique yet interesting, looking antique jar at the flea market. It’s a bit icky so you give it a wash in the sink and then dry it by hand just so it won’t be streaky. As you walk around looking for just the right spot to put it… smoke begins leaking out of the thing. You’re quick to put it down and step back.

The lid pops off, there’s more smoke and out floats a genie. You’ve heard of these things but never actually took them seriously.

She smiles, thanks you for getting out of that cramped jar and explains about how her original bottle was destroy by some damned dog a century or so ago. Anyway, she is quite pleased to offer you the mandatory three wishes. But, they must all be used within the hour as she has “places to go and people to see”. Whatever that means to an immortal genie type person.

What would you wish for? Would you do the humanitarian thing and wish for world peace and all that gunk?

I wouldn’t. I’d do the selfish thing and wish for wealth, skinniness and world domination. Just the little things.

Anyway, I’m still looking for just the right jar at the flea market. At times I think it really is out there somewhere. Likely I will have to wrestle some frail older woman for it. Or, even more likely I’ll buy the wrong one and someone else will take home my genie.

Oh well, I still have this blog to spin wild fantasies in.

No Hero on American Idol Tonight

I was watching American Idol. It was their sentimental show about feeding the hungry, world peace and all that other stuff that makes people feel they are doing something to solve the problems of the world.

I wish someone had done Hero, by Mariah Carey. That song has made me feel better at all kinds of times.

And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And youll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you

I don’t know if she wrote the lyrics herself. But she did a great job finding the words.

Make a Wish for a Million

Gifter.org – If you could make one wish for the world, what would it be? We would like to know.In fact, we want to know so much, we’re willing to donate $1 to charity for each wish comment posted here.

Post a comment. Tell us your wish for the world. Do it as a way of coming together with others, to show you care about everyone else around you. Do it to demonstrate your generosity and hopefulness.

The wish/ comment I wrote was:

I wish for human population control and more environmental action so we can all continue to live on our planet without eventually becoming extinct ourselves.

Others were more personal and more standard things like world peace and so on. Add yours, don’t think about it too long. What would your first impulse be?

See also, the TED Conference.

Skinny Girls Will Haunt You

I was reviewing some pro-ana sites this morning. It’s not easy looking at and reading sites where young women talk about starving themselves to fit into some skeletal ideal woman they think they need to be in order to be happy.

Here are some quotes from another of the sites. I edited out others, these were of interest to me.

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take youre eyes off your goal.” ~ Henry Ford

“It is never too late to be who you might have been.” ~ George Eliot

“Out of the strain of the doing, into the peace of the done.” ~ Julia Woodruff

“Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.” ~ Unknown

“Success isn’t a result of spontaneous sombustion. You must set yourself on fire.” ~ Arnold H Glasow

“Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.” ~ Unknown

“One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you give up before you get it.” ~ Sidney Howard

Happy Birthday Dad


I don’t have a picture of all of us, nothing lately anyway. This photo is my Mom, brother and myself. A long time ago. Dad likely was taking the picture. This is the second birthday he’s missed. He died just before Father’s Day, last year. We never got along, so don’t feel all syrupy about this post. I just felt like doing it.

Happy birthday Dad
From all five of us to you
May you rest in peace