Ads For Period Underwear Go Too Far

I know we’re expected to just jump up and accept everything related to sexuality these days but… I have a mind of my own. Not a popular thing, kind of a collector’s item these days.

I agree with these ads being censored. At the very least they could be edited with consideration for the children, elderly and others who all ride subways and travel about in cities and towns (places with sidewalks in general).

Men may object to any mention of periods and menstruation (or breasts as anything other than sex objects). But, they aren’t the only people who don’t want to see ads for period underwear.

I don’t want to see most of these ads while standing on a subway platform surrounded by the general public. The state of my underwear and whether or not I’m OTR (on the rag, as my brother calls it) is my business only. Private. Hence, the whole private parts thing.

I also don’t want children to see sexual images like the blush pink orange sections or the weird dripping egg. Children may not connect the dots on these images but I am and I’m not liking having them around. Or that woman leaning back in her chair, wearing just underwear. Who does that on any kind of normal day? Is she having cramps, falling asleep or trying to orgasm while seated? Then there’s the piano bench woman… is she supposed to be suicidal from blood loss? In short, this is not for public consumption.

Why not keep it plain and simple? The image of the woman in the sweater and the text without the extra comments/ editorial. Why isn’t that enough? Is the purpose of the ad to sell underwear to women, sell porn to men, sell sex while on your period or just upset the general population including women who can’t have children, have lost children, have started menopause, etc. It’s not just children I’m thinking of.

I don’t have a problem with the ads appearing. They sell condoms in plain view. Porn can be bought at most newstands. I miss the old days when people still kept a few secrets about their privates. I wish they would!

We’re annoyed they even considered censoring this in the first place.

Source: The NYC Subway Actually Considered Banning Ads For Period Underwear | Her Campus

Slavery Bracelet Rules

Use this to make your own rules, if you like the idea of a slavery bracelet for your man.

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The bracelet rules for the male:

  1. Once it’s on your wrist, you are not allowed to take it off. And there are no exceptions. She is in charge now, and she is the only one who can take it off.

If you’ll take it off, it means you broke a contract you had with her, and she can decide on the punishment, and in addition she can claim your slavery for a double period of time.

  1. As long as it’s on his wrist, you are her slave, and she is your owner. The status of your relationship or marriage has changed, and it will stay like this until she removes the bracelet.
  1. At the moment, you are wearing the bracelet, you must bow down to the floor and kiss her feet/shoes until she decides it’s enough. By doing it, you admit that the status has change, and you are under her control.
  1. During the time the bracelet is on you, you are obligated to accept her punishments. Once she calls you for punishment you cannot refuse. She is allowed to use the whip or leather belt to punish you as much as she wants.

Rules for the goddess:

  1. You, and only you have the right to take the bracelet off and release him.
  2. Before you put the bracelet, make sure that you are both know how long will be the period.

In case you both did not discuss how long he will be under your control, and for some reason the bracelet is on. The time will be the same as the last period.

 

  1. If you decide that it will be for 14 days. You should release him after 14 days and don’t try to use your power to extend the time since he cannot take off the bracelet by himself, and he is depended on you to be released.
  1. You cannot extend the period as punishment. If he was not obedient, punish him as much as you like. But do not extend the period because of it
  1. You can extend the period only on one exception. If he missed a day, for some reason, you entitle to extend it in two days for every one day he missed.

For example: you both decided on 21 days.   During the period, he needed to stay at work later one day, and he was sick and could not serve you for two days.  He missed three days total and as compensation you have the right to extend the period in six days (two days for every day he missed). There will be no argument about it from his side.

Make sure to force these rules. He must respect these rules and the sacredness of the slavery bracelet.

Source: Goddess Tip : The slavery bracelet

Image source: Instructables – with instructions for making a simple slave bracelet.

Real FemDom Ideas To Dominate Your Man With

The link below offers a fairly traditional list of FemDom fetishes and kinks. I read the list and then thought: I don’t actually want most of that. Or, if I do, it’s not really all that interesting after a short time. Not for me, individually, personally.

Women as Doms are pushed to perform for male submissives. Stop and think… What do you actually want?


Foot worship… slobber on your feet and foot wear. How attractive is that? Get him to pamper your feet in practical ways: manicures, leg waxing and massage. Change foot worship into foot service and reap the rewards!

Chastity… really means chastity for both of you. Would you prefer having him make love to you – the way you want him to? Yes, you can have him perform and give you an orgasm but is that really enough for you? Chastity works better as a tease than a reality. Long periods of time spent in chastity are usually just in stories, not fact.

Sissy play… Do you really like seeing him feminized? How does that make you feel about being a woman yourself? I don’t like sissy play. Not because I don’t like the torment of putting him into high heels, a frilly pair of panties, etc. But, I feel there is an aspect of sissy play which minimalizes women and being a woman.

Spanking… play, punishment, pleasure…? Do you enjoy giving a spanking? Do you like the exercise you get from it? By the end of the spanking do you have bruises too?

Bondage and teasing I do like. But, I make sure I’m doing both my way. I make sure I’m enjoying teasing him and I prefer mental bondage to the risk of tools and gadgets which are really physical objects to symbolize the actual control and power. Physical bondage works when I want to see him struggle and squirm and he likes being able to do so.

Roleplay… I do enjoy adding flavour with roleplay. But, how do you feel about it yourself? Does some of it feel silly, over done? Do you enjoy it or is it a performance and you’re glad when it’s over and you can be yourself again?

Learn how domination can boost your confidence and bring you closer to your man with these sexy femdom ideas that you can cater to your interests!

Source: 10 Femdom Ideas To Dominate Your Man With

Rules for a Fighting Slave of Gor

A really well behaved man (even without the chains) is kind of sexy.

Fighting Slave Rule 1: Fighting slave’s shall ask for entry into Kasra in the fllowing or similar manner: “Drawing to His knees, the fighting slave faces the place where the Homestone lays.Raising well muscled arms high in salute, before placing his palms flat to the tiles… fingers widely splayed, His deep masculine voice rings out…may (name of fighting slave) enter the city of Kasra?”

Fighting Slave Rule 2: Fighting Slave’s shall Greet in the following fashion: To the Khan and their Master / Misress a fighting Slave shall Greet in this Fashion – to the Khan – “Tal, Khan and Master. (and any additional greetings as appropriate)” – to their Master / Mistress “Tal, my Master / Mistress, (and any additional greetings as appropriate)”
To all Free fighting slave’s shall Greet in this way – “Greetings Master / Mistress {Name}, (and any additional greetings as appropriate)”

Fighting Slave Rule 3: After being granted entry into Kasra, fighting slave’s shall greet in this order: The Khan, The Ubara, First Sword, Second Sword, your Master / Mistress, all Free Men of Kasra, All Free Women of Kasra, all Free Visitor’s / Guest’s (Master’s, then Mistresses), any you are unsure of regardless of sex, and then slaves, who are always greeted last, and may be greeted as a group.

Fighting Slave’s do not use third person greeting’s, a fighting slave’s greeting should look something like this – “Greetings Master {Name} I hope this day has been good for you?” Fighting slave’s shall also bow, slightly, to the Free they are Greeting before Greeting them.

A fighting slave’s Greetings to the Khan shall be, when they see the Khan enter they will stand and bow towards him at the waist, they shall then Greet the Khan.

Fighting Slave Rule 4: Fighting slave’s sit on the bench’s that line the wall behind the slave fur’s. They do not sit on the slave fur’s.

Fighting Slave Rule 5: Fighting slave’s, when either greeting or speaking to the Free are not required to look at the feet of the Free they are speaking to. They are to look at their chest, face or eye’s, though eye contact is not to be maintained for prolonged period’s of time.

Fighting Slave Rule 6: The ko’lar’s of fighting slave’s of Kasra, be they owned by the City or by a Citizen of Kasra, are steel ko’lar’s. These ko’lar’s are a rounded steel ko’lar with a flat inner surface, they are thick and approximately 2″ wide for male’s, 1″ to 1/2″ wide for female’s. These ko’lar’s are plain with only the name of the fighting slave’s owner, deeply engraved into the left side in both Taharic and Gorean Print Script, and, deeply inscribed on the right side in both Taharic and Gorean Print Script the name of the fighting slave. No Leash Ring is attached to this ko’lar.

Fighting Slave Rule 7: Fighting slave’s of Kasra shall wear the following clothing only except in the Arena. a) A Sleeveless black leather tunic; b) A pair of pant’s made of rep-cloth dyed either dark brown or tan; c) Ankle Sandal’s; d) a pair of short dark brown leather bracer’s and e) Either a dark brown leather headband or a cap of rep-cloth worn on the back of the head, may be dark brown, black or white.

Fighting Slave Rule 8: Fighting slave’s in Kasra are NOT ka’jirus, they are fighting slave’s. In kasra a ka’jirus is a male pleasure slave. A fighting slave is NOT a pleasure slave, he or she is a slave whose only service is to fight in The Gladiatorial Arena of Kasra. As such, fighting slave’s do not ‘serve.’

Fighting Slave Rule 9: Fighting slave’s only contact with the ka’jira of Kasra is in the Main Room of Kasra and in IM’s. Fighting slave’s are NEVER allowed physical contact with the ka’jira of Kasra, under any circumstances.Under no circumstance’s will sexual conduct, of any kind between a fighting slave and a ka’jira will ever be allowed or tolerated. Defiance of this Rule willcost you your life.
In time, as Kasra grow’s, provision’s will be made for fighting slave’s to have access and use of female slave’s. You will be told when that time has come and how it will work. Until then, you shall do without.

Fighting Slave Rule 10: Fighting slave you are, and that makes you different, but slave you are, and slave you will be. Do not forget your place, fighting slave. Never forget, obedience is your life.

Fighting Slave Rule 11: A Master is, by definition, always right. They are therefore never Wrong. This Law applies to all Free Persons. Slaves always have the last word in any disagreement..”Yes, Master.”

Fighting Slave Rule 12: All of the Free shall be addressed as ‘Master’ or ‘Mistress’. If you are unable to determine the gender of the Free Person, you shall use ‘Master’ until such time as their gender can be determined.

Fighting Slave Rule 13: Contradiction of a Master shall never be tolerated. You are never permitted to argue with or contradict a Master.

Fighting Slave Rule 14: Always remember your place in Gor. Never forget it.

Source: http://www.angelfire.com/alt2/city_of_kasra/rulesforfightingslves.htm

Talking About Period Underwear

And trust me – I’ve looked up period panty kickstarters and brands, but then I’m like, “so I’m just going to pay a ton of money for period underwear that’s PRETENDING to be normal underwear?” I cannot be someone who I’m not. I cannot NOT wear period underwear, you know? It’s now a part of WHO I AM (at least once a month).

On the bright side (and there’s always a bright side) my dingy once-a-month panties (which, I must say, have withstood the test of time) make me grateful for my cute underwear. As they say, there’s always a silver (panty) lining.

via Can we talk about period underwear?.

One of the good things about having an adult site is being able to talk about things you wouldn’t talk about anywhere else. I could create a writing prompt for the idea of period underwear but I can’t see myself posting it on any site but here. So, here it is.

My period underwear is actually white. It’s also stained, with holes and some of them have elastic sticking out from the waistband (damn Fruit of the Loom for cheapness!). White works better, I think, because I can mercilessly bleach them. Blood doesn’t wash out that well, you know.

Of course, they are cotton. Man-made fabrics don’t breathe, may cling to you more than you want and some of them even trap in smells which you really don’t want at that time of the month.

What’s your period underwear like?

How do you Recycle your Period Pads?

In September, Elonë Kastratia noticed a tweet with a powerful statement:

The message got Kastratia thinking. And with International Women’s Day being celebrated March 8, she decided to print that feminist message and a few others on sanitary napkins and post them on traffic signs all over Karlsruhe, Germany, where she lives.

via Woman Slaps Period Pads All Over Her Town For A Very Important Reason.

Each time the commercial for adult pee pads comes on they ask “How will you recycle your period pads?” It really aggravates me every time I hear it. The women in the commercial are younger than I am. I still have my period, every month. Up to now I’ve only had one answer for their recycling question. (It’s a bit bloody so I won’t share it here).

Ironic that this use for period pads fits in so well with the recycling question. Men don’t like to talk or hear about women’s menstruation. Why should they? It has nothing to do with them, right?

Anyway, when I get to the point of being able to recycle my period pads in some other way (other than attaching it to my underwear and bleeding on it) I hope I remember this idea.

#RecycleYourPeriodPad

Sex is Not About Reproduction?

“Sex is not about reproduction. At all.” Today on BOLD, LeGrande Green interviews sex researcher Christopher Ryan about the provocative history of marriage and sexual boundaries. “If you look at it from a historical sense,” he says, “monogamy is propaganda, not science. I often compare it with vegetarianism…it’s a choice.”

Via – CHRISTOPHER RYAN: “The History of Sex” » BOLD WITH LeGRANDE GREEN

From a male perspective it is much easier to decide sex is not about reproduction. How many women would feel that same way? From a female perspective reproduction is a big part of sex. Birth control, having a monthly period and pregnancy are all linked to sex – unless you’re a male. For men the issue of reproduction is whether or not they use a condom. Big difference, but it makes it much easier for men to think sex is just sex, without consequences or something you have to plan for.

Too bad reproduction isn’t a choice. Women could choose to get pregnant, or not, without requiring sex partners, doctors, lawyers or anyone else. If a woman wanted a baby but didn’t really see any man she wanted to be with, monogamous or not, she could just choose to be pregnant. If a woman did not want to be pregnant she could choose to terminate a pregnancy without getting approval or judgment from anyone. If a woman just wanted to have sex, an orgasm or three, she could choose that, even with a partner.

Yes, women can get abortions. If they qualify. If they can afford it. If they are willing to risk being under the knife and if they can take on the guilt and sadness of aborting a developing life. Abortions are no simple thing. But, they don’t happen to men.

Sex would be much simpler for women if they could eliminate the reproduction issues caused by sex. But, so far science hasn’t found a way to make that a choice for women.

Retro Internet: The 1500 Point Purity Test

Long ago, in the days of the Internet surfing highway, there was a purity test with over 1000 questions. I found a copy of it. Posted for your viewing (or take the test) pleasure.

THE UNISEX PURITY TEST

If you thought the millenial purity test was bad, well you ain’t see
nuttin’ yet!

This is the 1500 point Purity Test!

We felt that the 1000 point version lost a lot of the “fun” of the
earlier versions, so we re-wrote it, adding a few new sections, and
a shitload of questions. This test is guaranteed to be nosier that
your parents, more invasive than the census, and containing something
to offend everybody.

Also included is an answer form so that you can remember where in the
test you were, or show to a friend.

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Sadness, Sex and Orgasms

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I feel sad. No one died but I feel sad.

Sex and sadness seldom go together. When did you last see porn where someone was sad? We are all supposed to love sex and want more of it. What if you don’t?

To not want sex, if you are a woman, means you must be a lesbian, frigid, a professional virgin, an ice maiden, deathly ill or a man hater.

I’ve read about pills being created to boost a woman’s libido. Why do men seem to think their needs should be considered the right point of view? What if a woman (or a man) just isn’t interested in sex? Can that just be allowed and not turned into something else? It is entirely possible that sex isn’t all that desirable. What if you’re asexual and happy that way?

Sex is a real let down. Sex is lonely. Sex is messy and one sided. Sex is inconvenient. Sex is over rated.

I prefer BDSM over sex. I prefer kinkiness and fetishes over sex. I’d rather laugh at some poor little man in peril than have sex with him or let him have sex with me.

That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy an orgasm. I give myself excellent orgasms. Letting a man give me an orgasm is a chore. I have to focus on it, I have to let him touch me and I have to remove clothing I may not be in the mood to remove. Plus, I have to communicate, be nice and then deal with him before and after. What an annoyance.

All I really wanted was an orgasm. Sometimes I like penetration – but I don’t need a man for that. I have a soft vibrator which whirls and swirls in all sorts of patterns, strengths and motions. No man can do all that. As long as I have battery power I’m set to go. I have great orgasms as often as I want them. I used to have one every evening It was a good way to slow down my mind and settle myself to relax and sleep.

I’m not as interested in orgasms these days. Maybe it’s because I’m sad. Maybe I’m just getting older or maybe it just doesn’t seem all that important any more. I think it’s mainly the last one of those but a combination of all three.

Sex is made so important in our culture. Too important. We make the young people feel they should lose their virginity as soon as they have their first period and boys should be having sex daily. I don’t know who they are supposed to be having all that sex with. Personally, I have no interest at all in being a cougar. It really does seem you will be despoiling the young. I know so much more than they do. There are things in my head which should not be in their mind until they are at least half as old as I am.

We make people think they should be having sex every day and if they aren’t there must be something wrong with them. Being a virgin is like saying you are broken or unwanted, unlovable. I was a virgin until I was 30+ and then I had the best sexual experience of my life – with the man I married (who was also a virgin). By today’s standards we were both mutant freaks. But… have you ever made love with a mutant freak who touched you as if you were precious and made you feel treasured? I have.

I’ve had dates where the man did not even look at me but assumed I’d have sex with him once we finished our coffee.

Compare those experiences. There is no comparison. I can never have the first again, it just won’t ever be the same. The second I turned down without regret.

It seems we lack emotion when it comes to sex. We see so much sex in movies and television, even in advertising. We become immune to it. Sex becomes background. I skip the sex scenes when I read a book. I get actually bored and feel dissatisfied when characters have sex in movies and such. It’s bland. It’s routine – no matter what new moves they add to it, it is not real enough to feel interesting. It lacks imperfection. It lacks emotion like sadness.

If you see people having sex when they are sad it is after a death. Why does someone have to die for there to be sex and sadness?

Why can’t sex be about real people? People who don’t want to bother with sex. People who play but skip the sex. People who may be sad and not want sex but still like companionship without being pressured or guilted into having sex.

This post is part of #AdultSexEdMonth