What Kind of Sex?

ChaCha: What kind of sex will you like best?

Slow Burn

You’d like slow burn sex. You like a slow seduction that starts out soft and passionate and becomes increasingly intense. Hot!

I have my doubts about the source for this quiz but it gives me something to post when I’ve neglected this blog so far this month.

You can also try – Are you Promiscuous?


Sexually Inhibited Men

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Saturday January 31, 2004

“You are a Creative Lover – You aren’t obsessed with excitement but enjoy trying new things. You understand that a healthy sex life needs to include some variety, and are secure enough to allow yourself to delve into the unfamiliar. Even when some practices are beyond your realm, you aren’t scared or disgusted by those things that others consider pleasurable. Continue to explore your boundaries, and take pleasure in the knowledge that you have achieved a healthy balance in the bedroom — something that your lover probably takes pleasure in as well! “

The above came from one of those quiz things – “Are you a Boring Lover?” which I found through LonelyHousewife’s journal on BackWash.

Why do they assume men are good lovers, or eager lovers? If you read the results of the quiz you get the idea that my lover is a randy stud muffin. Well, he doesn’t even exist at the moment. But, aside from that, my past lover was no randy stud muffin. He wasn’t all that keen on sex and didn’t really want to try new things.

So why do we let them talk to us like that? As if all the inhibitions are on our side. It’s not women who are trembling flowers in the bedroom, not in every case. So give us a break!

How can we feel natural about enjoying sex if we keep getting pushed into thinking we should be inhibited and wait for the man to start things. If we waited for him to start things over population would not even be an issue. At least that’s what I’ve found. Your situation may be different. But, I haven’t found that many men who really are randy stud muffins. Many of them will do all the talk, keep the porn collections they seem to think they must have but few are really all that sexual when it comes to the reality.

Does he talk about how much he likes to cuddle, spoon in bed and etc. Yes, that’s nice. But, that’s for after the sex, not the whole show. Sure, some cuddling foreplay might be ok. But, really, before the show starts wouldn’t you rather be doing something a bit more energetic and interesting? Maybe you like a little intermission to make it last longer. I wouldn’t go into cuddle mode then either.

Anyway, that’s my thing about men being sexual animals full of lust. They aren’t. If you really want a guaranteed sex maniac try the zoo… or maybe not. They might arrest you for some of those kinkier things. Anyway, have fun and allow yourself to like sex. So what if he’s a wet blanket. You’ve always got your orgasm under fingertip control.

The Elements and You

An element speaks to you…

  • The spirit of the wind carries your mind.
  • The tides of water rush through your veins.
  • The vitality of the flames feeds your soul.
  • The solitude of the earth comforts your body.

This comes from an online quiz. Which would you pick and why? I struggled to choose between the wind and my mind or the fire and my soul. I went with fire in my soul as being the best choice for me.

I’m a Purple Cupcake

You’re Gorgeous Cute

People find you cute, but they also find you to be attractive and charming. You carry yourself well.
You are well spoken, and you always know what to say to smooth over a situation. You are clearly well bred.
At times, you can be a bit of a snob. You can’t help it… you have a lot to be snobby about.
You operate on a higher plane, and many people envy you for it. Your exclusivity just makes you more appealing.

I’m Experimental

Cassity, on FetLife,  posted a link to a BDSM quiz.

My results:

You Scored as Experimental(((Note: I haven’t covered all aspects of BDSM in this quiz due to the length the quiz would have to be. It is sex-based because psychological profiles can be complicated and motivations for engaging in fetishes vary with couples and individuals. I have written this category as one of the alternatives because this quiz is to test inclination not a definite interest in BDSM.))) Experimentation is a great place to be. Open-mindedness when it comes to sexuality can open doors and allow you to discover things that you didn’t think you would find engaging. Having such a curious attitude can help you learn more about your own sexual nature as well as the nature of others.

Exhibitionist / Voyeur
Degradation Lover

BlogThings for St. Patrick’s Day

You Are A Fig Tree

You are very independent and strong minded.

A hard worker when you want to be, you play hard too.

You are honest and loyal. You hate contradiction or arguments.

You love life, and you live for your friends, children, and animals.

A great sense of humor, artistic talent, and intelligence are all gifts you possess.

Your Shamrock Says You Are Alert

You have a logical mind, and you pay a lot of attention to details. You are very organized.

Sometimes you find thinking creatively to be a challenge. You prefer to deal with the facts at hand.

You don’t really consider yourself a lucky person. In your view, people create their own luck.

You are traditional, easy going, and appreciative of the simple things in life.

You Are Teal Green

You are a one of a kind, original person. There’s no one even close to being like you.

Expressive and creative, you have a knack for making the impossible possible.

While you are a bit offbeat, you don’t scare people away with your quirks.

Your warm personality nicely counteracts and strange habits you may have.

Just for Fun

You Are Sexually Powerful

Your attitude toward sex is healthy, safe, and sane.
You enjoy sex as much as (or possibly even more than) the average person.

You’re open minded, intelligent, and adventurous when exploring your sexuality.
And while you never take things too far, you take them far enough!

Your Sensuality Score is: 65%

You are quite sensual, but you don’t go overboard.

You can appreciate a good piece of music (or pie) better than most people.

While you love to treat your senses, you’re not greedy.

You enjoy any sensual experience that comes your way, but you are not a slave to your senses.

You Are 44% Evil

You are evil, but you haven’t yet mastered the dark side.

Fear not though – you are on your way to world domination.

You Are Seductive Flirt

Smoldering hot, you don’t really flirt. You seduce.

For you, flirting is just foreplay.

You don’t flirt unless it’s going somewhere.

You have one goal in mind when you flirt… And you usually get it!

You Are 70% Kinky

You are a very kinky person. You are completely open minded about sexuality.

You’re up for something different from time to time, and you don’t have many hang ups.

And while you’re not into everything, you don’t judge people who are.

You figure that anything between consenting adults is fair game!

The Lover Style Profile Test

Your result for The Lover Style Profile Test…

The Classic Lover

41% partner focus, 38% aggressiveness, 50% adventurousness

Based on the results of this test, it is highly likely that:

You prefer your romance and love to be traditional rather than daring or out-of-the-ordinary, you would rather be pursued than do the pursuing and, when it comes to physical love, you concentrate more on enjoying the experience rather than worrying about your performance.

This places you in the Lover Style of: The Classic Lover.

The Classic Lover is a wonderful Lover Style, and is the closest it comes to the classic images of the princess in the tower, or the romantic and chivalrous knight, or the hero/heroine from a Disney film. The Classic Lover is a treasure to find, though it can be difficult to do so because they sometimes tend to be shy and/or difficult to successfully court.

In terms of physical love, the Classic Lover again can be shy, and often needs more in terms of emotional security to feel comfortable than some of the other Types. Given the right setting, and the right lover, the Classic Lover can be a delight in bed.

Best Compatibility can probably be found with: The Romantic Lover (most of all) or the Devoted Lover, or the Liberated Lover.



Take The Lover Style Profile Test at HelloQuizzy

He Who Will Serve

It’s not all official until you have a first real meeting I think. But, I have met a submissive male and he does sound good. Knows, really knows, that he is to serve me. I have met a lot of submissive males (so called) who quickly give me a list of what they want and how I should treat them, how I should make them behave and how they can please me. All of this ignores the fact that I know my own mind and I know how and when I want to be served. I don’t need a list given to me by the very man who says he wants to serve me. You can’t serve me if you are making up all the rules, treating me like a McDomme, a fast food service for your instant gratification all done your way.
These kind of submissive men seem immature in the long run. When I don’t fall into their plan they soon ignore me, forget my email or just don’t show up when they had said they would. Does this sound like a man you would expect to know how to serve you (if you were a Dominant woman)?
Finding a submissive man who is strong (in mind and body), mature (not just in age) and independent and creative is unusual, in my experience. Yet, I think it takes a strong man to really be a great submissive. If he has never been strong how can he really appreciate giving up some of his strength and power? You have to have it to lose it, right? Also, as a woman, it is a huge turn on to be the woman leading a man like that versus one who wants it too much and takes it too lightly.
I found a quiz for male submission today: The Male Submissive Potential Test.

Christmas Tree by Personality

You Are Blissfully Content

During the holidays, you have a lot to be thankful for. And even if you are having a hard time, you do your best to express gratitude.

You are a glass half full type of person. You try to see life as a gift.

You believe that it’s important to stay positive and peaceful. Not just for your own mental health, but for also for the mental health of those around you.

The gift of optimism is the best thing you could possibly give. And you give it well.