This is your tie today, boy. It’s romantic without being girly. (According to me). This weekend we would be attending my Grandfather’s memorial party. I think a nice charcoal suit, a shirt some shade of grey (very pale) and this silvery rose tie. Top it off with a hat, in the style of the 1930’s. Dress shoes.
This tie comes from McDade.
This tie (see below) has so much more potential. What little secret would you add to your boy’s tie? Not a pin-up girl. A submissive boy needs a different kind of secret, peekaboo. Use your imagination, make it personal, customized for just your boy.
If you sew, find a tie pattern and make it from scratch. Adds that extra touch when you can pick out the fabric and pattern too.
My ideas for inside the tie include:
- miniature handcuffs (very small and not likely to cause a rip in the tie fabric)
- a fabric blindfold, carefully folded flat but easy to pull out for use later
- a special note (love note, instructions, reminders, helpful suggestions, etc.)
- a photo of yourself, or one of him especially dressed and posed to please you
- an image of an activity which makes him blush (could be scanned and printed onto fabric, or paper)
What other ideas does this give you?
I like to think of things just a little shocking. Think of him wearing his tie on a windy day. As it flips and twists here and there in the breeze what secrets might it reveal? You might give him a new tie pin (to keep his tie in place) but not right away.
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Change things around and bring him flowers, chocolates and a sincerely meant compliment. If you can bake make him a cake, a pie or cookies, homemade may not be perfect but it’s far more intimate/ personal than something from a bakery.
Stop suggesting changes to his wardrobe and bring him flowers in bright colours instead. Later you can try a shirt or tie, inspired by the colours he liked in the flowers. Or, not, really how terrible is it that he dresses himself, even if you don’t approve of some of his choices. Keep in mind that he wants to look good, he just doesn’t want to be told to change.
A compliment will work much better. Tell him when he’s looking good. Tell him he’s having a great hair day. Tell him those pants look great on him, that shirt brings out the colour of his eyes and he looks so polished and professional when he wears that suit.
People like positive feedback, which is what compliments are. No one is going to accuse you of nagging when you give a sincere compliment to them. (Don’t try turning negative feedback into a compliment – that’s just mean and phoney).
Complimenting men is fun, once you get started. Compliment random men. The guy who held the elevator or the door for you. Smile when you say “thanks” and actually look at him too. Such a small thing can really make a difference in someone’s day, for both of you.
Being pleasant never goes out of style.
Guys love compliments
‘As men, we crave compliments. Nothing will make us happier then to be told we look good, smell good, etc. This is why… we men tend to compliment women too much sometimes. We sometimes over use the golden rule, we treat women as we want to be treated.
‘I have worked with some pretty attractive men who would get hit on often which was nothing for them but the second someone actually complimented them they lit up like a god damn gorgeous Christmas tree.’ – Betamaletim
Quote from a post at Marie Claire.
Usually I sort out FemDom art by how it appeals to me. Mainly, does it look realistic or just a performance focused on him. This image really appeals to me because she is tied up but still looks just as involved and empowered as a Domme. This really is a power exchange and she isn’t giving up a thing just because she lets him tie her up. Source: Evelyne et Tiburce | Gracy Gimp’ drawings
via – Collars 4 Dogs
The only problem with this one is the size. Probably not big enough for most men to wear. A shame to punch in extra holes or trying other methods to give it the extra length. But, it’s probably not the only dog collar with a posh looking bow tie.
Just grab a tie or scarf and tie your girl’s hands to the bed posts. Girls like getting pounded while being restricted, because it takes all the responsibility for “being bad” off her shoulders.
via – A Beginner’s Guide to Dominance and Submission.
Don’t just grab and tie up anyone. BDSM is not forced on someone or something you surprise someone with. Start much slower, gentler and find out if either or both of you even like how it feels to be tied up or to be the one who ties up the other.
Not every “girl” likes being pounded in any form and for sure, not every “girl” likes being pounded while restricted. Don’t believe generalizations unless your “girl” is sex doll you bought at the store, not a real person.
Being submissive is not about giving away responsibility. For men or women, both submissive and Dom are responsible for what happens between them and how they treat each other. Being Dom does not give you free reign to do as you please. Being submissive does not mean you give away all your rights and take whatever you are given. Besides, if someone feels bad about something they did, that feeling will not go away when the BDSM part of your time is over.
Please don’t “just grab” and think all is well. Any fear in BDSM should be pleasurable, not actual afraid for your life or safety fear. Aggression should be measured, planned and decided on before any grabbing starts. BDSM is not what you see in pornography. Leave porn to the professionals who walk away with a pay cheque for their time and trouble.
BDSM is not permission to abuse people.
Good luck finding someone sexually unadventurous to try most, if any, of these. No one should be pushing someone into a sexual adventure they don’t want or aren’t ready for.
- Role play
- Positive dirty talk
- Blindfolds and handcuffs
- Switching up the location
via – Eating Ass And 6 Other Things Sexually Unadventurous People Should Try In Bed | Thought Catalog.
However, some adventures may be more appealing than others. I’m thinking of quiet adventures, not so much drama and soft lighting.
Of course, don’t start something as if you’re already an expert at it (even if you have done it with someone else, or seen it done). Whether it’s massage, bondage, spanking, or even just plain sex… take time to find out what each of you actually likes. Learn the simple things rather than trying to dive in as if you know what you’re doing and who you are doing it with.
- Bondage, but don’t actually tie any knots. Just let them hold their own hands together.
- Teasing and denial. Talk about what you’d like to do, but don’t do anything.
- Age play with dressing him or her in just regular clothes as if you were dressing a kid.
- Massage but the one who wants the massage should give the massage first.
- Tantric sex, but start slow. Sit nude facing away from each other, back touching back. Relax, do nothing.
- Role play, but just talk about it and look at costumes you might wear when you take the next step.
- Domination and submission but, speaking only, no touching and no toys/ tools/ accessories.
- Exhibitionists, go outside, somewhere private. Start with kissing and touching, maybe just sitting close and cuddling.
- Spanking, but keep it light. Start with patting and see if either of you likes it enough to do more.
I think this is a sensible list for the unadventurous to actually consider. This gives people a chance to find out if they may be adventurous after all.
Donna Noble (Catherine Tate) is special. She was one of the very few (if only) Doctor Who companions who was a mate, just a friend and yet a really good friend. Donna started with a Christmas episode with the 10th Doctor. She was swept away from her wedding and off to an adventure with Doctor Who.
At one point Donna was the most important woman in all of creation (she saved the whole of reality from the Daleks). Then she was left back at home to go on with her life, not even knowing she had been so much more.Her adventure ended (far too soon) when the Doctor had to erase her memory of everything they had done and accomplished together. It was a tragic ending. A sad ending.
Donna Noble should have had so much better. In a later episode they brought her back as the 10th Doctor was dying – as a way of making amends (to fans I think) Donna was given a winning lottery ticket as she married someone else. To wrap things up with a tidy bow – the money for the ticket came from her Father who was deceased in the present.
Donna was gone too soon. She had so much potential and so much more storyline could have been developed – it wasn’t right to take her away and try to tie up the loose ends in a pretty bow for fans.
How could I ever go back to normal life after seeing this? I’m going to travel with that man forever. Donna Noble.
Cylindrical vase or clean empty can
Two sided tape (found at most hardware or scrapbooking stores)
Wide ribbon (must be wider than rubber band)
Wrap the two sided tape around the vase/can once approximately halfway down the vase/can. (The two sided tape will help keep the candy canes from sliding out from under the rubber band.)
Slide rubber band around the vase/can.
Begin inserting the candy cans behind the rubber band.
Tie the ribbon around the vase/can taking care to cover the rubber band with the ribbon.
Fill with water and arrange roses.
Another “Bride Idea”: Use mini candy canes and baby food jars or small fruit cup cans to create small individual vases which can serve as place cards. Just attach a label with your guests’ names to the ribbon.