Nice Poppy Brooch

It’s an expensive brooch but doesn’t look it from this photo. But, the design is nice. I like the detail and it does look like the poppies we grow here in the garden. There are some wonderful colours in the garden poppies, in shades of pink, orange and red. Traditionally, it’s the red poppies for Remembrance Day, November 11th. Did you get a poppy for your lapel yet?

Source: PEACE POPPY 30mm gold plated brooch by Rodney: Amazon.ca: Jewelry

Dare to Be a Feminist

Scoop.it: Dare to be a Feminist

My friend, Deanna, writes about a lot of issues to do with women. When I read them, I feel passionate, angry, etc. But, I don’t write about women’s issues or feminism myself. I don’t curate a topic about it. I don’t even look for or read about it.

I don’t think Deanna has ever asked me why. Maybe she already knows, or assumes I’m just one more woman who goes along and doesn’t think about the issues, or especially care. Maybe she thinks I prefer not to know and just walk along, blindly ignoring everything but what’s right in front of me.

That isn’t it. The truth is I just don’t want to keep fighting. I’m not the fighting type. I’m about keeping the peace, finding ways to work things out and getting situations under control. Women are natural peace keepers they say and I believe that to be true.

I grew up as the oldest of four kids. I looked after the others and myself.  I did it pretty well for a kid. My Mother was there. But, she was more like a back up plan. She liked (still does) being busy, always cooking, cleaning or planting something. She was a good Mother but she wasn’t always so hands on. That was me. I learned to keep four kids together when we were out and I learned to keep four pretty different temperaments together when we were home. Situations came up where there were disagreements, problems, even a small house fire, and I handled them all.

I’ve never been particularly into news reading. A headline will catch my eye. I am far more likely to skim the first paragraph then read on to find out the details. If the first paragraph engages me I will skim farther along. I have to be pretty passionate about the topic to read the whole thing. Seems far more people are like me than ever before, when it comes to reading news and blogs.

So, I don’t find the issues important to women first. I read it all second hand.

Don’t assume I’ve had an ideal life, never affected by anything. I’ve been molested as a young teenager. My sister was raped and would have been murdered if someone hadn’t heard her scream and come to look. All sorts of situations and happenings in my life, not all of them about sexual assault. I stopped reading the news or listening to the news a few years ago because I just can’t deal with more violence against women and how deeply angry I feel. You can’t live your day to day life if you are consumed by deep seated anger.

I find it hard to be social, to keep friends. I can be friendly and social in short spurts. I do it really well. People usually like me. But, I’m not connected to anyone, really. I’m isolated and most of who I am likes it this way.

So I don’t keep up with women’s issues. Not because I don’t care. Not because I’m not affected. But, because I’m too affected and I just can’t live with all the anger. I have to keep living and I can’t spend my time fighting everything and everyone. I have enough to do just to fight myself. To keep myself from hiding away from the world.

If you ask me, I will say I’m a feminist. But, it may be that no one will agree with me, or believe me, because I’m not a fighter on the outside.

I'm in the 7%

 Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old. This is something we should all read at least once a week!

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Change the way you think.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. Release your children when they become adults, its their life now.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye

16. Take a deep breath It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22 Just because you believe you are right, doesn’t mean you are. Keep an open mind.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. Your job is to love your children, not choose who they should love.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield…

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

Its estimated 93% won’t forward this.

If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with the title “I’m in the 7%”. Friends are the family that we choose.

The Colour Quiz

My results from The Color Quiz

Your Existing Situation

“Creative and emotional, looking for ways to further expand those qualities. Looking for a partner who enjoys the same activities. Seeking adventure and new and unusual activities.”

Your Stress Sources

Feeling empty and isolated from others and trying to bridge the gap between herself and others. Wants to live life to the fullest and experience as much as possible. she cannot stand any restrictions or obstacles put in her way and only longs to be free.

Your Restrained Characteristics

 

“Finds satisfaction in sexual activity, but is emotionally detached which prevents her from becoming too involved.”

Current situations force her into compromise and placing her own hopes and desires on hold for the time being.

Is feeling emotionally drained from stressful and tense situations. she is in need of peace and quiet in order to overcome her lack of energy and may become irritable if she does not recover.

“He is able to find satisfaction through sexual activity, but can be restless and emotionally distant so she never really gets too involved with others.”

Current situations force her into compromise and placing her own hopes and desires on hold for the time being.

 

Your Desired Objective

Very active imagination and may be prone to fantasies and daydreaming. Always dreaming of interesting and exciting things to happen to her. Is a charmer and wants to be admired for that.

Your Actual Problem

“Feeling held back and restricted from moving forward, looking for a solution that will give her more freedom and less obstacles.”

Your Actual Problem #2

“Fears she will be held back from achieving things she really wants, leading her to search endlessly for satisfaction and become involved in activities which are pointless.”

 

You Are…

From yet another personality quiz. Idealist Healer

You are introspective, cooperative, informative, and attentive. Your tranquil and reserved exterior masks a passionate inner life. You care deeply about causes that interest you and often pursue those causes with selfless devotion. You are highly compassionate and empathetic to the needs of others, seeking to bring peace, health, and integrity to your companions and to society at large. You want to heal the problems that trouble individuals and correct the conflicts that divide social groups.

You tend to be private and have a strong sense of right and wrong and an idealistic worldview. You are deeply committed to things that are positive or good and are inspired to make extraordinary sacrifices in attempts to achieve your ideals. You are prone to errors of fact as you follow your feelings more than you follow logical analysis. However, following your feelings also means that you seldom make errors of feeling.

You were often misunderstood as a child. In practical minded families, your devotion to idealism may be frowned upon and even punished. Most other role variants can shrug off the parental expectations that don’t fit them, but you are greatly affected by it. You want to please your parents and siblings and, in attempt to do this, you may mask or hide your differences. This can create inner turmoil within yourself. You are often better at detecting this inner turmoil than other role variants. You seek unity of mind, body and spirit, perhaps because of the inner turmoil caused during your upbringing.

You are adaptable, patient with complicated situations, and welcoming of new ideas and information. You are impatient with routine details. As you are aware of people’s feelings, you relate well with others. You are also comfortable working alone given your private nature.

Famous Healers include Richard Gere, Princess Diana, and Audrey Hepburn.

What Does Ice Cream Say About You?


Your Ice Cream Personality:


You like to think of yourself as a fairly modest person. And it’s true that you don’t talk yourself up… but you’re also pretty happy with who you are.

You are the type of person who likes to throw caution to the wind. You only live once, so you’re going to live as large as possible. You are definitely a wild one!

You are a fairly open minded person with a wide range of tastes. You are quite accepting of unusual ideas and people.

You tend to have a one track mind. You prefer not to multitask.

You can be a big dramatic and over the top sometimes. You are bold in every way


You Are Having a Crazy Day


You feel a bit overwhelmed by the changes doing on in your life right now. You don’t have a good anchor.

You are an energetic person. You tend to tackle your problems head on – but you also worry about them too.

You are prioritizing love right now. Whether you’ve just fallen for someone or are renewing a spark, you are all about the romance.

Deep down you crave freedom. You feel at peace when you are able to do what you want.